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I had to quit in September due to burn out. Given how many better engineers now on market I feel there are no space for me anymore. Now burning my saving money

I had to quit in September due to burn out. Given how many better engineers now on market I feel there are no space for me anymore. Now burning my saving money on rent and food and going to commit suicide few months later.

hazalmestci 4y ago
"better engineers" is subjective, some people have more technical skills and some more leadership skills, some more interpersonal skills etc. there is always space for you and everything you bring to the table, and you are so much more than your "labor" capacity. please don't commit suicide.
dQw4w9WgXcQ 4y ago
> and going to commit suicide few months later Come on now, why do you feel like that is the plan? Post your email in profile or something, plenty of us care for you. There's much more to life beyond a software job.
imissmymind 4y ago
You're important to us. You are needed. This will pass and there are people who love you
adamgamble 4y ago
You're better than you think you are, and there is space for you. You need to find someone to talk to, there is help. Please don't kill yourself.
mishftw 4y ago
In the case that this was not a poor joke, please do consider calling 988 if in the US or any equivalent service in your locality: https://988lifeline.org https://988lifeline.org There is more to life than work - and it may be hard to see that in the face of cost and running out of money. Have you considered any adjacent or post-software gigs? I know some folks who have left to go study a particular science or end up in teaching. A good friend of mine left engineering to become a substitute and then full-time teacher.
Noumenon72 4y ago
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ericmcer 4y ago
Maybe try a complete change? Work in retail or landscaping or go back to school or something. Software can suck because we tie our self worth to being productive on a little screen. Sometimes I feel envious of people who don’t use computers at work. It would be nice to not have them be so tied to my reality.
runnerup 4y ago
I was in the same spot and similar timeline. I just found something that will be compatible with my burnout and terrible employment record. For the most part during that time, pushing forward didn’t seem worth the energy at all. I’m glad I did though — I’m at least rather curious now, about how the next year will go for me.
helsontaveras18 4y ago
You have people that care for you and will miss you. Don’t forget that.
shrimp_emoji 4y ago
Why was the comment suggesting to adjust expectations flagged down? It said that OP should take a lower caliber software job where Silicon Valley-tier engineers normally wouldn't apply because such a job would not reject them. >Given how many better engineers now on market I feel there are no space for me anymore. If we entertain the premise that there's an influx of superior talent hogging all the "good SV jobs" (which it's probably the hiring freeze due to market correction from massive overhiring and the looming recession, but let's go with the premise), that's precisely where there would be "space" for OP. Those jobs absolutely exist, and re: burn out they can be pretty slow-pace to boot. (For example, defense/government work.)
glminvictus 4y ago
Don't give up. You've got a reason to live.

hazalmestci 4y ago

"better engineers" is subjective, some people have more technical skills and some more leadership skills, some more interpersonal skills etc. there is always space for you and everything you bring to the table, and you are so much more than your "labor" capacity. please don't commit suicide.

dQw4w9WgXcQ 4y ago

> and going to commit suicide few months later Come on now, why do you feel like that is the plan? Post your email in profile or something, plenty of us care for you. There's much more to life beyond a software job.

imissmymind 4y ago

You're important to us. You are needed. This will pass and there are people who love you

adamgamble 4y ago

You're better than you think you are, and there is space for you. You need to find someone to talk to, there is help. Please don't kill yourself.

mishftw 4y ago

In the case that this was not a poor joke, please do consider calling 988 if in the US or any equivalent service in your locality: https://988lifeline.org https://988lifeline.org There is more to life than work - and it may be hard to see that in the face of cost and running out of money. Have you considered any adjacent or post-software gigs? I know some folks who have left to go study a particular science or end up in teaching. A good friend of mine left engineering to become a substitute and then full-time teacher.

Noumenon72 4y ago

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ericmcer 4y ago

Maybe try a complete change? Work in retail or landscaping or go back to school or something. Software can suck because we tie our self worth to being productive on a little screen. Sometimes I feel envious of people who don’t use computers at work. It would be nice to not have them be so tied to my reality.

runnerup 4y ago

I was in the same spot and similar timeline. I just found something that will be compatible with my burnout and terrible employment record. For the most part during that time, pushing forward didn’t seem worth the energy at all. I’m glad I did though — I’m at least rather curious now, about how the next year will go for me.

helsontaveras18 4y ago

You have people that care for you and will miss you. Don’t forget that.

shrimp_emoji 4y ago

Why was the comment suggesting to adjust expectations flagged down? It said that OP should take a lower caliber software job where Silicon Valley-tier engineers normally wouldn't apply because such a job would not reject them. >Given how many better engineers now on market I feel there are no space for me anymore. If we entertain the premise that there's an influx of superior talent hogging all the "good SV jobs" (which it's probably the hiring freeze due to market correction from massive overhiring and the looming recession, but let's go with the premise), that's precisely where there would be "space" for OP. Those jobs absolutely exist, and re: burn out they can be pretty slow-pace to boot. (For example, defense/government work.)

glminvictus 4y ago

Don't give up. You've got a reason to live.