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I'll echo other commenters here on the PhD side, if that helps you out. Nearly all PhDs are having the 'work' troubles you are, I sure did, all of my friends s

I'll echo other commenters here on the PhD side, if that helps you out. Nearly all PhDs are having the 'work' troubles you are, I sure did, all of my friends sure did, I don't know of a single person that hasn't had issues like you are having with finishing their PhD. Really, what you are experiencing is so common that I would be surprised at anything else. If you can, talk with your advisor or committee and explain what is going on. I know most PhDs can't really do that, but it's worth a shot. Try to figure out the bare minimum, and just do that. Remember, your degree doesn't come with an asterisk that says you just barely got it, or that your advisor had to wrangle the committee to pass you, or that it took you 8 years to get. You just get a diploma like everyone else and a little hat just like everyone else.

ncr100 4y ago
It's feeling, as a non-PhD but still pushes myself, that emotional intelligence is what is needed to help the OP process their Toxic Family (narcissist parent), and loss of recent support, because the OP talks dismissively about the support they're receiving from their therapist in terms one might describe a Toxic Family. I wonder if the OP is framing their world in their child-mindset. And the "push hard to PhD" behavior is an indication of a split. A focus on intellectual. Which suggests under-attending to emotional awareness. So, "do something that is right for you" eventually leads to thinking about what is right, which leads one necessarily to Feel what is right. Keyword is to Feel. Being aware of feelings. Boom. Keep going to therapy, OP, and engage - it's scary and worthwhile.