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Getting dumped by your partner can really crush your ego as a man. Don't worry, it will get better. The hardest thing for me was that I still loved her, but of
by koonsolo 4y ago
Getting dumped by your partner can really crush your ego as a man. Don't worry, it will get better.
The hardest thing for me was that I still loved her, but of course rationally didn't want to (mother of my 3 kids). One trick I used was to disconnect the real person with the person I loved. This allowed me to still love the person in my head, but not the real one (sounds stupid but it really worked). Basically "the person that I love is in my head and doesn't exist. The real person just looks like her".
Rock bottom means you have nothing left to lose, or at least you feel like it. For me it felt kind of liberating. Because if you have nothing left to lose, there are only things to gain. You can take stupid risks and it won't matter anyway.
Your breakup is still fresh, so try to talk to some friends who went through a similar thing.
Hang in there, it will get better.
- ncr100 4y agoThe difficulty comes when this is a life-pattern, established as a child before the OP was equipped to moderate the ups and downs of relationships. It won't get better. That is appearing to be the concern of the OP. IMO the OP needs to be supported and nurtured during this transition. So, finding self-care anywhere they can is the advice I'd say. And for the long-term, advice from a therapist can help train their child-mind to better handle this dynamic life.
- Schroedingers2c 4y agoThanks for your reply. Yes it is still fresh, I also still love her and find it very hard to accept this new reality. I've talked a lot to friends and family the past 2 weeks so that helped. I know all I can do is let time do its thing.