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Some of this just sounds like normal gripes about dating - men don’t want to settle and women have high standards for settling is a dynamic as old as time - but

by benced 4y ago

Some of this just sounds like normal gripes about dating - men don’t want to settle and women have high standards for settling is a dynamic as old as time - but some things like COVID reducing organic social interaction seem to be a permanent Covid hangover, unfortunately.

sytelus 4y ago
It is not as old as time. It is a very new phenomenon where both sexes now work towards equal earning power, seek absolute freedom without dependencies while child care is professionally commoditized. At the same time, entertainment is not only plentiful and cheap but typically of higher quality than any marriage can provide beyond honeymoon period. Add on the top of this very extreme cost of divorces (in state of CA it translates to lifetime slavery) and most young people very acutely aware about this as half of themselves comes from divorced families. They innately understand this "love" thing is transient, expensive and very time consuming.
- shrimp_emoji 4y ago
  And common law marriage divorce even if you never GOT married! :scream: :skull: :praying_hands: rip xQc's McLaren :tombstone:[0] 0: https://dotesports.com/streaming/news/has-adept-xqc-common-law-marriage-drama-paved-the-way-for-veibae-to-take-sodapoppin-to-court https://dotesports.com/streaming/news/has-adept-xqc-common-l...
  - sytelus 4y ago
    The problem new generation has is that if one marries to financial equal, they would divorce because they can support themselves while enjoying independence once honeymoon period is over. On the other hand, if one married to financial unequal then other person has very high incentive to divorce as they get half of the wealth other person brought in plus potentially lifetime of fat alimony checks secured by life insurance in states like CA. Divorce rates in US is now off the chart and kids born in these families knows how how this love thingy eventually pans out. Gen 0 members now describes classic romantic novels as "cringe".
- midoridensha 4y ago
  Yeah, the "old as time" way of getting married was for your parents to set it up, probably while you were still a young child. Back then, the woman was basically property.
reustle 4y ago
> men don’t want to settle and women have high standards for settling is a dynamic as old as time I would think that the period at which you decide to finally settle w/ someone "good enough" has been pushed far later in life due to the (seeming) abundance of options on the internet / social media / dating apps.

by benced 4y ago

sytelus 4y ago

It is not as old as time. It is a very new phenomenon where both sexes now work towards equal earning power, seek absolute freedom without dependencies while child care is professionally commoditized. At the same time, entertainment is not only plentiful and cheap but typically of higher quality than any marriage can provide beyond honeymoon period. Add on the top of this very extreme cost of divorces (in state of CA it translates to lifetime slavery) and most young people very acutely aware about this as half of themselves comes from divorced families. They innately understand this "love" thing is transient, expensive and very time consuming.

shrimp_emoji 4y ago
And common law marriage divorce even if you never GOT married! :scream: :skull: :praying_hands: rip xQc's McLaren :tombstone:[0] 0: https://dotesports.com/streaming/news/has-adept-xqc-common-law-marriage-drama-paved-the-way-for-veibae-to-take-sodapoppin-to-court https://dotesports.com/streaming/news/has-adept-xqc-common-l...
- sytelus 4y ago
  The problem new generation has is that if one marries to financial equal, they would divorce because they can support themselves while enjoying independence once honeymoon period is over. On the other hand, if one married to financial unequal then other person has very high incentive to divorce as they get half of the wealth other person brought in plus potentially lifetime of fat alimony checks secured by life insurance in states like CA. Divorce rates in US is now off the chart and kids born in these families knows how how this love thingy eventually pans out. Gen 0 members now describes classic romantic novels as "cringe".
midoridensha 4y ago
Yeah, the "old as time" way of getting married was for your parents to set it up, probably while you were still a young child. Back then, the woman was basically property.

reustle 4y ago

> men don’t want to settle and women have high standards for settling is a dynamic as old as time I would think that the period at which you decide to finally settle w/ someone "good enough" has been pushed far later in life due to the (seeming) abundance of options on the internet / social media / dating apps.