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No. It's not "quite clear" that "quitting social media alone is probably even worse and self-isolating than not taking part." It's clear from my experience as
by IncRnd 4y ago
No. It's not "quite clear" that "quitting social media alone is probably even worse and self-isolating than not taking part."
It's clear from my experience as a parent, and from the experience of many others, that that isn't an issue. The child may whine and throw a tantrum, but that's not a reason to let the child be the parent.
- aidenn0 4y agoI took my phone away from my daughter for a few weeks because she violated her technology contract. She literally did not meet up with friends a single time outside of school during that time because it was all arranged on iMessage. I don't regret what I did, but it definitely was isolating. Granted this is not my most socially pro-active kid (the most socially pro-active kid used a friend's phone to sign up for social media and meet up with strangers).
- Spivak 4y agoWas that your intent? You effectively grounded her. Actually worse because if she was grounded she could still talk to her friends. Trying to equate all "technology" and confiscate it like it's an extra nonessential thing like video games or toys is a mistake a lot of parents seem to be making in an environment where most social activity happens online and where everything is planned. It's fine I guess if that's what you wanted out of it but it's a pretty harsh punishment all things considered. I would have taken the grounding every time.
- aidenn0 4y agoIt was not our intent; she is not our oldest and we were surprised how unmotivated she was to plan outings with friends without using the phone compared to others. A phone is clearly a non-essential thing since she was able to function the first 13 years of her life without one. We have rules around proper phone use and there was a violation that was both significant, and a repeat offense, so the phone went away for an extended period of time. P.S. I don't know what kind of grounding you had, but I sure as hell wasn't allowed to talk with my friends when I was grounded (by the time I got a phone in my room, it was removed whenever I was grounded).
- juve1996 4y agoHow else is she supposed to reach out to her friends if she can't use a phone?
- aidenn0 4y agoShe sees them at school every day?
- juve1996 4y agoNot every day of the week. And plans/things change all the time. Luckily we can message everyone in a group saying we'll be late/can't go/let's do this new activity instead. Everyone was doing everything on imessage. People don't call other's home phones anymore to make plans. Do you even own a landline?
- aidenn0 4y ago> Do you even own a landline? Yes.
- krageon 4y agoBy talking and physical proximity. It's not easier, but it's also not exactly hard if you go to the same school.
- juve1996 4y agoSchool only covers part of the day. You don't always see all your friends (some share different class schedules). This doesn't cover the weekend. And it doesn't cover changing plans or adhoc after school plans. I just don't see how someone can be shocked that their daughter couldn't make plans after they took away the prominent communication device everyone uses. It isn't like when we grew up and you'd call the landline or get on your bike and knock on your friend's door.
- 4y ago
- TheGeminon 4y agoIf all of their friends are socializing mostly, or exclusively, on social media then it could definitely be worse. They could easily miss out on in-person social interactions that are planned on social media as well, or just feel out of the loop when interacting in person since their friend group is discussing something they shared online earlier.