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> transactional Your network should be somewhat transactional. They don't call it your friend circle or your family, that's different. Your network are peopl
by phil21 4y ago
> transactional
Your network should be somewhat transactional. They don't call it your friend circle or your family, that's different.
Your network are people who can be (potentially) useful to you in your career or life goals. In return, you typically are (potentially) useful to them.
The oft-repeated story of a colleague moving on and then giving you a recommendation for hire at their new gig when you start looking is a transactional relationship. Both parties got something out of it, and I don't see anything wrong with acknowledging that. Even if those parties didn't really speak for a few years in between.
Plenty of folks I consider in my network and "good" friends I haven't spoken to in a couple years. If they called me at this moment I'd drop everything and pick up the call, and at least try to help them with whatever their reasonable need is. And I expect the same to be similar in reverse as well.
- shrimp_emoji 4y ago>They don't call it your friend circle or your family, that's different. Hahaa, citation needed. Embrace the interpersonal blackpill... unu
- kelseyfrog 4y agoThe problem with the interpersonal blackpill is that when people find out about it, they feel used, like a means to an end. I guess it's ethical to announce it to people before interacting with them, but that's so outside social norms, that I don't see it happening. Moreover, it necessitates the question, is it easier than being kind, caring and warm to people and form genuine and meaningful connections?