Agreed - though I would add rationally empathic. I've found that if I follow-up, immediately, with an understanding of my child's perspective, they are more on

Agreed - though I would add rationally empathic. I've found that if I follow-up, immediately, with an understanding of my child's perspective, they are more on-board with what I am modeling. Then, it's not just about me being the authority, but me demonstrating why I have 'a better idea'. It makes it almost effortless to be fair, firm, and consistent, and was the one thing missing from my own rather draconian childhood.