Been at FAANG 6-7 years and was equally surprised as you coming in. I had a peer more used to it coming in, the best thing he did was build a relationship, sub

Been at FAANG 6-7 years and was equally surprised as you coming in. I had a peer more used to it coming in, the best thing he did was build a relationship, subtly establish this wasn't going to be a great place to bring my full self, and be kind day to day minute to minute as questions came up. More directly, what you described is how it goes and it's sad. The worst part is watching them either find a way to be a part of the grinding machine, get chewed up by it, or give up and be sad. Best thing you can do technically is what you're doing, if you build a personal relationship, you should help them pace and signal the lack of incentives