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About 22% of US married couples met at work, and that number is increasing. Of course, dating subordinates is a clear no-no.

itsoktocry 4y ago
Sure, but is it a "good thing"? Or is it that people spend so much time at work it's the only chance they have of meeting anyone?
- eddsh1994 4y ago
  It is if the divorce rates are lower than the average, it isn't if it's higher (indicating less-optimal marriages due to lack of social life)
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- chrsig 4y ago
  No, it's really a terrible thing -- both for what you noted, and the fact that if a relationship sours it could impact coworkers. Any given relationship sprouting from coworking isn't terrible, but in aggregate, I think it warrants a decent amount of frowning.
- 1123581321 4y ago
  It’s a good way to meet people with shared interests. Everyone with everyone having more free time, not everyone wants to attend meetups outside of work. Not saying meeting at work has no downsides.
- philwelch 4y ago
  It’s probably better than relying on Tinder.
- carlosjobim 4y ago
  Maybe people work at the same place because they have similar interests? We are not randomly assigned where to work, it is a personal choice. Is it better for couples to meet when they're out getting blasted on the weekend?
grujicd 4y ago
I get that power imbalance can be abused, and even if not - things can get complicated. But on the other hand, love does not know about org chart and if you meet your soulmate that way, why should potential long-life happiness of two people be less important than what HR says? Disclaimer: met my wife on the job 22 years ago, although we were both developers in same positions, not subordinate situation.
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- bb88 4y ago
  The power imbalance doesn't just affect the couple in the romantic (or lustful) entanglement. It affect those outside of the entanglement as well. At the worst it can be akin to nepotism which can quickly erode morale and productivity -- (there's no reason to work harder since the "fiance" will get the promotion). At a previous company a manager dated her direct employee, and working in her team was really an awful experience because of it. Everyone knew it, and nobody could say anything for fear of retribution.

itsoktocry 4y ago

Sure, but is it a "good thing"? Or is it that people spend so much time at work it's the only chance they have of meeting anyone?

eddsh1994 4y ago
It is if the divorce rates are lower than the average, it isn't if it's higher (indicating less-optimal marriages due to lack of social life)
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chrsig 4y ago
No, it's really a terrible thing -- both for what you noted, and the fact that if a relationship sours it could impact coworkers. Any given relationship sprouting from coworking isn't terrible, but in aggregate, I think it warrants a decent amount of frowning.
1123581321 4y ago
It’s a good way to meet people with shared interests. Everyone with everyone having more free time, not everyone wants to attend meetups outside of work. Not saying meeting at work has no downsides.
philwelch 4y ago
It’s probably better than relying on Tinder.
carlosjobim 4y ago
Maybe people work at the same place because they have similar interests? We are not randomly assigned where to work, it is a personal choice. Is it better for couples to meet when they're out getting blasted on the weekend?

grujicd 4y ago

I get that power imbalance can be abused, and even if not - things can get complicated. But on the other hand, love does not know about org chart and if you meet your soulmate that way, why should potential long-life happiness of two people be less important than what HR says? Disclaimer: met my wife on the job 22 years ago, although we were both developers in same positions, not subordinate situation.

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bb88 4y ago
The power imbalance doesn't just affect the couple in the romantic (or lustful) entanglement. It affect those outside of the entanglement as well. At the worst it can be akin to nepotism which can quickly erode morale and productivity -- (there's no reason to work harder since the "fiance" will get the promotion). At a previous company a manager dated her direct employee, and working in her team was really an awful experience because of it. Everyone knew it, and nobody could say anything for fear of retribution.