You can't make a good kid. And you will fail at parenting. The technique is to fail slowly and get better. But I have great parents and used to be an educator,

You can't make a good kid. And you will fail at parenting. The technique is to fail slowly and get better. But I have great parents and used to be an educator, so here are my tips: listen, aknowledge, and explain why not. If you are good at making stuff up on the fly, you will avoid public crisis. Else you will get shamed, but you don't have to care. Be yourself, and be one model for the kid. That means a bit of hiding disagreements. And teaming up with your SO against your children. Do stuff with them, while leaving them alone (I'm an OK educator, kayakist and woodworker thanks to my dad, and know a lot about hospitals teaching and nursing thanks to my mom, still I am a SWE most of the time.). Like I said, you will fail. Support them when they fuck up. Being there is often enough. Good luck. And do not hesitate to make stuff up. I've visited a dozen tombs, saved an island and got rid of a pirate between the ages of 6 and 14, and nobody can make me think otherwise.