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For some reason at the bar people don’t ever talk to me until I’ve been drinking for so long I sound like an idiot.
by the_only_law 4y ago
For some reason at the bar people don’t ever talk to me until I’ve been drinking for so long I sound like an idiot.
- avmich 4y agoSeconded. And going to a bar with the goal of finding romantic partners makes you sound particularly idiotic when you loosen up a bit. That's why many approaches here, which assume rational part, especially - importantly - at the moment of human-touchness, e.g. when you're actually communicating with potential partners, can fail dramatically. Imagine you'd drink enough and start broadcasting a little your ideas which brought you - especially if you're a nerd - to the bar. You're going to have spectacular, epic what-they-say. And if you don't loosen up, you're perceived as incincere, somebody who's hiding something, likely nasty, behind them and trying to catch strangers in who knows which schemes.
- DonHopkins 4y agoPractice sounding like an idiot while sober! ;)
- jareklupinski 4y agointelligence can be intimidating; overbearing intelligence is almost a turn-off maybe people are just waiting until you're down on their level
- nradov 4y agoMost women aren't intimidated by intelligence. They're turned off by condescending assholes who constantly recite facts and contradict others instead of carrying on a normal conversation.