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> I interrupt sometimes because of my ADHD, not because I am rude, but because I am disabled. If I don't get it out, it'll be lost forever. Its important to rem
by timr 4y ago
> I interrupt sometimes because of my ADHD, not because I am rude, but because I am disabled. If I don't get it out, it'll be lost forever. Its important to remember not everyone is running on the same playing field.
Is it? Just because that is your tendency doesn't mean that the other person must adapt to your behavior or redefine their perception of polite conversation.
You could also resolve to interrupt less often, even at the expense of losing some input into the conversation. I don't have ADHD but I do have a crappy short-term memory, and this is what I try to do. People routinely overflow my stack, and when it comes my turn to talk, I pop whatever is off the top. Or I'll simply ask someone to repeat whatever they just said: "sorry, you said something interesting a moment ago, but I lost it...the thing just before $blah."
Admittedly this is a gray area, and there are disabilities (speech issues, Tourette's, etc.) where a polite listener will make accommodations. But it's a lot to ask someone to forgive chronic interruption, when the reason for the interruption is that you're afraid you might forget things. I imagine that most people have things that they wish they'd have said at such-and-such a time.
- klodolph 4y agoThere’s a middle ground here—there’s no objective standard for what polite conversation is. It’s not only cultural, differing depending on the context and cultural backgrounds of the participants, but idiosyncratic, depending on the particular individuals involved. “I have a hard time in conversations, I hope my interruptions aren’t too much, please let me know if I need to dial it back” is a perfectly workable request. Good people are willing to adapt to the behaviors of neurodivergent people, even when those behavior would otherwise be seen as impolite.