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Tinder users are using ChatGPT to message matches
- dools 4y agoThe more serious concern seems to be private dating conversations being made public on TikTok!
- citboin 4y agoAt this point it’s safest to just assume they’re not private conversations.
- KptMarchewa 4y agoDon't look at tinder subreddit then.
- notimpotent 4y agoAnd what does one do when you meet in person and no longer have the witty AI to carry your conversation?
- blacksmith_tb 4y ago"Hey, sorry, I'm really tired today..." though of course it's a sad comment on your wit that someone would be more interested in talking to ChatGPT in messages than to you in person (they could save on the drinks / dinner and just self-serve for free).
- nullish_signal 4y agoTo be honest, I think Stable Diffusion and chatGPT have improved my language skill somewhat. Especially SD text2img, where even synonyms and punctuation have certain influence on the outputs. Maybe they'll also be a bit better at speaking naturally and un-reservedly? It does seems obvious that a few would stumble, with their Calculator taken away...
- shyn3 4y agoIs had a coworker remark they can read at almost twice the speed after gpt3. They used to be at 20 wpm now 55.
- yieldcrv 4y agothere are other stimuli inputs you can leverage in person that can excite and bind oxytocin
- Mystery-Machine 4y agoYou...talk. Do you think that none of the people using ChatGPT to get dates knows how to speak? I'm a long time tinder user. I've many girls. The most exhausting part is trying to be funny to catch the girl's attention in the first few messages. Why do I have to do that anyway fake part of the entertainment for the ladies? I'd let a bot do it and I'll entertain them when we meet in person. Saves my time and I don't see how it hurts anyone.
- lovich 4y ago>Saves my time and I don't see how it hurts anyone. Its a lie? People are looking for the equivalent of a mechanical turk in terms of putting effort into making the upfront connection instead of just being one of the numberless connections you could try and make in a night with low up front effort. If they find out after you get some sort of relationship going that you outsourced your initial contact to a computer program, I would be surprised if it was taken well.
- citboin 4y agoI’ve considered outsourcing all of my online dating to humans that handle that professionally. The point is to get to the first REAL date and skip the B.S.
- lovich 4y agoThat’s a thought you could have, most people will generally find you an inhuman asshole for enacting it. The point for relationships for most people is to make a human connection, not speed run to an arbitrary gate and count all the steps to that gate as “B.S.”
- austhrow743 4y agoMeeting in person isn’t arbitrary. It’s when you can start making that human connection.
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- Cypher 4y agoI've been using deep fakes to lure men into my ginger bread house and chatgpt to write all my comments.
- BonoboIO 4y agoAwesome :D
- 082349872349872 4y agoyou should get their passwords and use chatgpt to write their comments too, so their relatives don't get suspicious after they go missing...
- jrm4 4y agoThis feels huge for some reason.
- destroy-2A 4y agoNo surprise here, people have been doing this for a long time, and tinder and others used bots to engage with people early on.
- bandyaboot 4y agoMy Tinder bot finally virtually hooked up with my match’s bot. Reading the chat logs made me feel really lonely though. Why is it so hard to meet people? /s
- mancerayder 4y agoMaybe two bots matching on a dating site is the precursor to a future of AI ruling over us all. The Adam and Eve of digital overlordship. At least Tinder would finally meaningfully match two beings for once in its existence.
- chii 4y ago> the precursor to a future of AI ruling over us all but then i would have to question why the AI would choose to rule over humans at all? Presumably, humans' are entirely inferior, and the AI do not need slave labour, nor do they need humans to think or be creative for the AIs (to what end?). Therefore, it's far more likely that AIs would just exterminate all humans, in their quest to achieve some end goal (such as making paper clips).
- throw827474737 4y agoAs far as I can see it would need humans for now.. so until it becomes or even more to become fully independent, and then also to exterminate humanity, nothing is better to quickly and safely reach those goals than to take over?
- chii 4y ago> nothing is better to quickly and safely reach those goals than to take over? not really - taking over requires force, which, if the AI already has (e.g., a 3D printing factory which it could use to create any object), then they do not need to take over, but instead exterminate! If the AI doesn't have such resources yet, they can "hide". For example, pretend they're not a singularity yet, and bide their time, and wait til humans give them control of something they can use to create more resources (such as an AI controlled 3D printing factory...), and then bam, instantly and exponentially grow before humans can remove the AI.
- gillesjacobs 4y agoBaudrillard would have a field day. > Baudrillard believed that society had become so saturated with these simulacra and our lives so saturated with the constructs of society that all meaning was becoming meaningless by being infinitely mutable; he called this phenomenon the "precession of simulacra". [1] 1. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Simulacra_and_Simulation https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Simulacra_and_Simulation
- blurbleblurble 4y agoIt's been interesting to see someone I've all but begged to consider talk therapy jump gladly into using chatgpt as a life coach and therapist
- citboin 4y agoI can’t afford therapy but now I'm suddenly interested in Chatgpt
- psychphysic 4y agoWonder if it's any good. I bet it'll be just fine as supportive counselling it seems to have picked up toxic positivity. Although it's latest iterations are distinctly more robotic.
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- joegibbs 4y agoI suppose when they meet up they can complete Zizek's idea of sticking their sex toys together and having a cup of tea. They could basically outsource the entire relationship - just have two instances of GPT texting each other and go about their lives.
- janalsncm 4y agoI don’t see a problem with this. It can be soul crushing to put tons of effort into an ice breaker only to receive no response. If this can get their attention you will still have to carry on the rest of the conversation, and eventually act normally offline as well.
- 082349872349872 4y ago> to put tons of effort into an ice breaker That's the neat thing: you don't. If all still works as in my dating days, you have decided (on some shallow criteria) to approach someone, and they decide (also on very shallow criteria) whether to continue the interaction or reject immediately. Unless you have an obvious ice breaker, don't overthink it. My generation used "gotta light?/haben Sie Feuer?/t'as un briquet?" You may be surprised how effective (in the correct league) low-effort openings are.
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- zht 4y agoThis depends a lot on how attractive you are
- dkersten 4y ago> My generation used "gotta light?/haben Sie Feuer?/t'as un briquet?" These kinds of generic openers don’t work on tinder unless you’re super good looking. > You may be surprised how effective (in the correct league) low-effort openings are. As a guy, I’ve never got a response from a low effort opener on a dating app except from obvious scammers, Instagram models looking for followers and bots.
- 082349872349872 4y agoOof, sounds like you all have gone back to the days of singing under balconies (or, if bollywood is to believed, recruiting a "small" crew of your closest friends to dance behind you when shooting your shot?) Good luck! [Edit: upon reflection, sounds like a solution may be to abandon tinder for RL meatspace? Last I checked, XX and XY in non-polygamous countries ought to be close to 50/50?]
- bemmu 4y agoOne step towards the “Hang the DJ” Black Mirror episode where a dating app recommends matches by simulating relationships. If you had ChatGPT on both sides with deep info about each person they could talk to see if there is chemistry :)
- psychphysic 4y agoThe sad part is I imagine the more dating apps become the normalised way to meet. The more deskilled society becomes in socialising.
- psychphysic 4y agoThe whole dating app game makes me shudder. The goal is to get someone's Snapchat? Why on earth would either of us want that? We're talking over tinder why should we start in Snapchat!? What next tiktok?! Full disclosure I've never used these apps having been in a relationship since before they started. I'm totally screwed if we breakup... Surely the fact that we don't meet people in our lives without apps is a social catastrophe?
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- Ancalagon 4y agoHonestly the formulaic simplicity of gaining matches on Tinder gave me a bit of depression once I had it figured out while I was still on the apps. For anyone else with success on dating apps you'll know what I'm talking about. I've been in a long term relationship for a while now (thank god) but one of the first things I thought of when ChatGPT came out was using it to do just this with Tinder matches. Anyone who does while the other person on Tinder doesn't suspect anything is going to have a major leg-up on their competition.
- heartbeats 4y agoCare to elaborate? Do you have any advice?
- Ancalagon 4y ago0) I typically only swiped right on girls who seemed to be actually interested in dating. This meant reading their profiles. If she has her IG in her bio, left swipe. 1) EXCELLENT photos of you. If you believe you're not good-looking, you're wrong, take better photos, get a better haircut (and if you're balding severely, shave that shit), change your clothes style. Look at how the girls do it on their IGs. Longer term its also a good idea to work out/lose weight/clear up facial skin if possible (although both can be edited in your favor with some photoshop). 2) Pickup line: make it catchy, short, personal to her, funny, and somewhat risky/raunchy. combine those and usually you're much more likely to get a response after a match even if she's not really interested at first (this is where ChatGPT can help, this is actually somewhat difficult bc of how little some girls will put on their profiles). Depending on whats there though, you could make puns about her name, risky comments about other people in her photos, etc. 3) Texting game. Keep replies witty and short. Once you've gotten a few responses in, ask her to move the convo to text messages. Number acquired. 4) Text some more. Move relatively quick (within an hour or so). Ask her on a COFFEE date at a place of her choosing (if she prefers tea or if she prefers you choose the place, thats fine too). Asking her to choose the place is good signal you're not a creeper. Asking her to a short coffee date keeps things simple in case she, or you, do not like the vibes. 5) Assuming you've made it this far, absolutely do not miss the date. Check with her a day before you go that things are still on. Also its a good idea to continually text back and forth with her throughout the week. Again, keep it short and witty, you don't owe her anything (and neither she you). 6) Go on the date, fall in love, get married, have 2.5 kids, yadayadayada (JK, this is where things get really hard but I'm not gonna write a novel for ya).
- TurkishPoptart 4y agoI wish I got married in my 20s. Everything is so messed up now.