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>3 x failed attempts => spending time institutionalized >anyone can do it with the right mindset Those are contradictory, I would guess the right mindset is o

>3 x failed attempts => spending time institutionalized >anyone can do it with the right mindset Those are contradictory, I would guess the right mindset is one where failure doesn't destroy you to the point you get institutionalized. Here is my stupid advice (won't work, it's a case of someone who knows less giving advice to someone who knows more, I have never started a company or anything, but as Gandalf said "Why Bilbo Baggins? Perhaps it is because I am afraid... and he gives me courage."): Buy a copy of a souls game (Dark Souls, Bloodborne, Sekiro, Elden Ring), play it with no summons and no over leveling, you'll eventually get to a difficult boss that will kill you many times, now the first Souls game I played was Bloodborne and I just gave up after a week, came back then gave up, came back again and it clicked and now they're my favorite series of games, I died like 50 times against some bosses, it would drive anyone crazy, the stupid mistakes I keep repeating, the unfairness of some of their moves, etc. doesn't matter, I chose to play the game and it's just a game so why get affected? This will obviously not help you in anything related to startups, but it's a light way to learn to accept failure, is it the same kind of acceptance? I don't know... Also you failed, maybe you're just 5 feet 6 and can never ever become a professional basketball player no matter how hard you try, does it mean you're less of a human being to the point you get institutionalized for it? of course not, you tried, you failed, maybe the 4th time's a charm, maybe not, if you become comfortable enough to try again without affecting your mental health sure, if not don't try again, a decent job, a family, a couple friends, couple hobbies, and you can live a meaningful life and maybe even be happier than many people who succeeded at what you tried.

totalZero 4y ago
Also you failed, maybe you're just 5 feet 6 and can never ever become a professional basketball player no matter how hard you try Muggsy Bogues is 5'3" and played 14 seasons in the NBA. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Muggsy_Bogues https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Muggsy_Bogues
- Fargren 4y ago
  There was once a time when I would have written a comment like this one, but now I'm down-voting it. There are two ways to read this message, and both of them are not something I would encourage, of different reasons, and being ambiguous between them is not in it's favor either. A. You are trying to highlight that the poster is technically incorrect, so that they learn a new fact. That is mostly fine, but it doesn't add a lot to the conversation, and distracts from the point that they are trying to make. or B. You are making a point that some people succeed despite handicaps, essentially that there are often exceptions and hard work can make up for lack of talent. This is true, but it's a mindset that I think should not be encouraged in the OP. They are clearly having problems with how hard they work, which had lead to them being institutionalized. Telling them that they could have succeeded if they tried harder is not what we should do here.
  - totalZero 4y ago
    The system lets you downvote my comment and it also lets me reply to your points A and B. A. Stating the truth is a contribution to the conversation. The boundaries between success and failure are fuzzy and it is a disservice to suggest that you have to meet certain criteria to accomplish difficult goals. Every great success is unique and those who try to convince people that lofty goals are structurally unreachable are generally not the good guys. B. You are conflating two very different arguments. One is, "OP needs to hit the brakes and re-evaluate because clearly something is leading him down a harmful path." The other is, "Those who set out to do something difficult are going to encounter disappointment, mistakes, and failure, and they should find hope in the knowledge that unique and unlikely success stories can be found in abundance." Your point is the former, mine is the latter. In both cases, you are attempting to extrapolate my reasoning from my comment and that's an error on your part because you lack enough specific information about my thought process to infer my reasoning. I would appreciate it if you could respond to the best version of my comment rather than casting a harsh light upon it.
  - chaosbolt 4y ago
    There are people like this everywhere I just learned to not answer them, you will say something that's true for 99% of the population, instead of reading between the lines and understanding that I was trying to say "people are different and the difficulty isn't the same for everyone", they'll instantly jump on the 1% for who the thing you said doesn't apply and reply telling you how you're wrong, there people argue to argue, to get a dopamine hit (they'll reply to tell me it's some other neurotransmitter at work here) and satisfy their ego, radio has static noise and the internet has these people, just ignore them.
matwood 4y ago
> but it's a light way to learn to accept failure Everyone should do sales at some point to learn about failure, and build a thicker skin. Sales is about getting told no over and over, not taking it personally, and continuing to keep trying. Sounds very familiar to entrepreneurship, which at the end of the day is about selling customers, investors, and yourself on an idea.

totalZero 4y ago

Also you failed, maybe you're just 5 feet 6 and can never ever become a professional basketball player no matter how hard you try Muggsy Bogues is 5'3" and played 14 seasons in the NBA. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Muggsy_Bogues https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Muggsy_Bogues

Fargren 4y ago
There was once a time when I would have written a comment like this one, but now I'm down-voting it. There are two ways to read this message, and both of them are not something I would encourage, of different reasons, and being ambiguous between them is not in it's favor either. A. You are trying to highlight that the poster is technically incorrect, so that they learn a new fact. That is mostly fine, but it doesn't add a lot to the conversation, and distracts from the point that they are trying to make. or B. You are making a point that some people succeed despite handicaps, essentially that there are often exceptions and hard work can make up for lack of talent. This is true, but it's a mindset that I think should not be encouraged in the OP. They are clearly having problems with how hard they work, which had lead to them being institutionalized. Telling them that they could have succeeded if they tried harder is not what we should do here.
- totalZero 4y ago
  The system lets you downvote my comment and it also lets me reply to your points A and B. A. Stating the truth is a contribution to the conversation. The boundaries between success and failure are fuzzy and it is a disservice to suggest that you have to meet certain criteria to accomplish difficult goals. Every great success is unique and those who try to convince people that lofty goals are structurally unreachable are generally not the good guys. B. You are conflating two very different arguments. One is, "OP needs to hit the brakes and re-evaluate because clearly something is leading him down a harmful path." The other is, "Those who set out to do something difficult are going to encounter disappointment, mistakes, and failure, and they should find hope in the knowledge that unique and unlikely success stories can be found in abundance." Your point is the former, mine is the latter. In both cases, you are attempting to extrapolate my reasoning from my comment and that's an error on your part because you lack enough specific information about my thought process to infer my reasoning. I would appreciate it if you could respond to the best version of my comment rather than casting a harsh light upon it.
- chaosbolt 4y ago
  There are people like this everywhere I just learned to not answer them, you will say something that's true for 99% of the population, instead of reading between the lines and understanding that I was trying to say "people are different and the difficulty isn't the same for everyone", they'll instantly jump on the 1% for who the thing you said doesn't apply and reply telling you how you're wrong, there people argue to argue, to get a dopamine hit (they'll reply to tell me it's some other neurotransmitter at work here) and satisfy their ego, radio has static noise and the internet has these people, just ignore them.

matwood 4y ago

> but it's a light way to learn to accept failure Everyone should do sales at some point to learn about failure, and build a thicker skin. Sales is about getting told no over and over, not taking it personally, and continuing to keep trying. Sounds very familiar to entrepreneurship, which at the end of the day is about selling customers, investors, and yourself on an idea.