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I make 6 figures and I get rejected by girls that work at Chick Fil A

by symlinkk 4y ago

sieabahlpark 4y ago
s5300 4y ago
- symlinkk 4y ago
  Because I’m not attractive. None of the stuff you listed matters if you’re not attractive.
  - astrange 4y ago
    Everything they listed is what being attractive is. Every part of being attractive is under your control. Often other people are not good at telling you what you need to do to get there though.
    - symlinkk 4y ago
      I’m talking about physical attractiveness. It’s largely up to genetics. You can help a little by going to the gym or dressing nice but it’s not gonna turn a 3 into a 7.
      - s5300 4y ago
        You’re hopeless with this mindset. I wish you the best in one day finding peace & perhaps the realization, that in the grand scheme of things, your opinion on this matter is ‘wrong’ in our modern society. I don’t have the slightest clue what you look like, but if you have an able body, I promise you I’d trade however you look for the functionality of your body. Seriously, I miss being able to participate in real life so much. I’d gladly become whatever you think a “2” is for a working body.
        readarcticgreen 4y ago
        Sometimes things don’t work out for you. I make a good tech income, literally own my home, I exercise and I’m probably fitter than most people, I have plenty of friends. At best I’ve been on 2-3 dates with the same woman. None have really shown interest in me. I’m not under any illusion, it’s me. I’m lucky I live in a country where sex work is legal. Otherwise I might still feel suicidal. I don’t think internet advice or trying to show people how they aren’t that bad of is helpful or even appropriate for HN. Just say “I’m sorry it hasn’t worked out for you”.
        astrange 4y ago
        Hmm, are there countries with legal sex work and good tech incomes? “Good” meaning SV good. Anyway, does your target market want a guy with a house and job? That’s what first gen immigrants want. (Or what second-gen’s parents want, which matters too.) The local middle class want that to be assumed and you actually appear to spend all your time on volunteering and hobbies.
      - astrange 4y ago
        Physical attractiveness is the most under your control thing there is. Women don’t wake up looking like that and you don’t have to either. It’s not that important though. The real part is keeping the relationship going, not finding it. Also, have you seen Pete Davidson? He looks like a drowned rat.
        throw6383878 4y ago
        How do you increase your height by 15 inches?
        astrange 4y ago
        Just don’t date 5’4”-ish American white women and you’re good. The height complex is mostly a them thing. In particular, taller women don’t care.
        throw6383878 4y ago
        So it is not under my control?
        Volrath89 4y ago
        Move to Guatemala where the average female height is 4'11. This is the average, so there are shorter women than that.
      - lordnacho 4y ago
        There's some genetic component, but you can control how clean you are, how fat you are, and what you are wearing. Do that and practice talking to women, and then you're attractive. Some of the guys I know who get the most women are not particularly handsome at all, they just do a lot of talking to women and thus are good at leading the conversion to where it needs to go. I'm sure you are aware of a subculture of men who go out in town to meet women. All they're doing is practicing a lot.
  - s5300 4y ago
    I’m not attractive either, swear to god, & HN is the last place on the internet I’d be spending the very small & precious amount of energy I have in my days anymore to humblebrag, if I were going to. I’m also like, 5’6”, but with my posture, probably look 5’5”. I think if you were perhaps 5’2” as a male, I may slightly sympathize with you & the stigma surrounding male height, but I’ve still met more than a few dudes that short who do just fine. When you say you’re not attractive that really does nothing for anybody trying to give you advice. Do you have a hideously deformed face from a birth defect or accident? Okay, if so, that’s understandable. Are you morbidly obese? Okay, if so, that’s understandable - & highly likely to be a personal choice of yours that can be changed within a year. Otherwise, seriously, I just don’t get it. If you have a stereotypically ugly face, it really doesn’t matter if you otherwise have decent posture, the other stuff I listed, & some form of job. As cringey as it sounds, it’s otherwise just your mindset. & yeah, I’ve met plenty of people who don’t want to accept or acknowledge this is the reason, or even slightly want to change it. If you don’t want to help yourself, nobody in this world can help you. & fwiw & the last I’ll comment on it - the thing that gets the most people approaching me, the very last hobby of mine my body barely lets me do, is a style of skateboarding. So if you’re down so bad, maybe try that. Before that, it was practically… every hobby. This is why I truly genuinely state one interesting hobby. Doing hobby level work in a machine shop/maker space & after hours math meetups in college were probably the other two biggest attractors in my past life. Even hiking works, man. & you don’t even have to like it in the slightest… just pretend you do. @astrange - thanks for your comment, I saw as I was writing this out & it really hits home more than anything I can further ramble about. I do not know what goes through the minds of those who do not understand this very simple thing.
    - symlinkk 4y ago
      I’m over 6 ft tall but I am lanky and my face is ugly.
      - Volrath89 4y ago
        Only very young women (teens and early twenties) care about the attractiveness of your face. After 23-25 I can confidently say it is the last thing they look at. Women of all ages look at height, though. So, if you are over 6', you can consider yourself extremely lucky, people are literally breaking their bone legs with a surgery to grow a few inches. About being lanky. I was also very skinny my whole life, I could eat anything including unhealthy fast food, sodas, etc and never gain weight. I thought that my "metabolism was too fast", that it was genetic, and that I could not change it. Until this year where I actually wanted a change and went from 130 to 160 lbs (58kg to 72kg). I'm 5'10 (177 cm). And for the first time of my life, I can wear something that actually fits and looks good on me.
- MrBuddyCasino 4y ago
  > unfortunately have the look/bare bones facial structure of what a stereotypical neo-nazi looks like This is why you pull girls. Women are not interested in average men at all. They either want the tar-heroin injecting bass player, violent serial killer or the billionaire.
  - s5300 4y ago
    You’re making the presumption of an actual Aryan Nazi from Germany. I specifically said Neo-Nazi, which entails having the facial structure of a loser who thinks they’re “muhh master race” - I’m essentially a genetic mutt from the MidWest. I don’t have nice heroin chic cheek bones or a chiseled jaw line or anything. But discussing this is dumb & fruitless, I probably shouldn’t even be replying. Actually - I’ll give one last piece of advice >> They either want the tar-heroin injecting bass player, violent serial killer or the billionaire. Do not, under any circumstances, align yourself with any woman/human who you’ve learned has a personality like this. It’s that simple. That’s a disgusting personality. Most women are not like this & I’ve typically immediately ghosted the few I’ve ended up meeting that are. It sounds like you want a girl who’s into that & just want to fantasize that you’re the tar-heroin injecting bass player, violent serial killer or the billionaire - but you aren’t, & never will be. Not sure why anybody would want to live with a mindset like that.
    - MrBuddyCasino 4y ago
      You're barking up the wrong tree. I'm in a happy relationship for many years.
      - s5300 4y ago
  - bigDinosaur 4y ago
    I assume you're making a joke because this is obviously not true considering the definition of the word 'average' and so on.
- 9530jh9054ven 4y ago
  > I’m a destitute & mostly disabled cripple that hasn’t been able to work in three years, has had no stable income for much longer, & unfortunately have the look/bare bones facial structure of what a stereotypical neo-nazi looks like (imo), yet I still have conventionally attractive women (and… men/others…) approach me, & have very little issue in finding romance/partners if I go out of my way to approach somebody. I think you might be underestimating yourself slightly. I'm something of an incel; not so much about sex, but incapable of emotionally bonding to people in general. And at least it seems most people are able to pick up rather quickly on the fact that there's something fundamentally wrong with me, and understandably distance themselves. A destitute cripple can still function as a person that other people can enjoy; an ability to empathize, or an enjoyment of company of others is something I think most people have, including you. Some capability of being able to understand, connect, and respond to others. So please don't put yourself down too much if you have at least that much ability. It seems as if you're still just a normal decent person at the end of the day.

I make 6 figures and I get rejected by girls that work at Chick Fil A

sieabahlpark 4y ago

s5300 4y ago

symlinkk 4y ago
Because I’m not attractive. None of the stuff you listed matters if you’re not attractive.
- astrange 4y ago
  Everything they listed is what being attractive is. Every part of being attractive is under your control. Often other people are not good at telling you what you need to do to get there though.
  - symlinkk 4y ago
    I’m talking about physical attractiveness. It’s largely up to genetics. You can help a little by going to the gym or dressing nice but it’s not gonna turn a 3 into a 7.
    - s5300 4y ago
      You’re hopeless with this mindset. I wish you the best in one day finding peace & perhaps the realization, that in the grand scheme of things, your opinion on this matter is ‘wrong’ in our modern society. I don’t have the slightest clue what you look like, but if you have an able body, I promise you I’d trade however you look for the functionality of your body. Seriously, I miss being able to participate in real life so much. I’d gladly become whatever you think a “2” is for a working body.
      - readarcticgreen 4y ago
        Sometimes things don’t work out for you. I make a good tech income, literally own my home, I exercise and I’m probably fitter than most people, I have plenty of friends. At best I’ve been on 2-3 dates with the same woman. None have really shown interest in me. I’m not under any illusion, it’s me. I’m lucky I live in a country where sex work is legal. Otherwise I might still feel suicidal. I don’t think internet advice or trying to show people how they aren’t that bad of is helpful or even appropriate for HN. Just say “I’m sorry it hasn’t worked out for you”.
        astrange 4y ago
        Hmm, are there countries with legal sex work and good tech incomes? “Good” meaning SV good. Anyway, does your target market want a guy with a house and job? That’s what first gen immigrants want. (Or what second-gen’s parents want, which matters too.) The local middle class want that to be assumed and you actually appear to spend all your time on volunteering and hobbies.
    - astrange 4y ago
      Physical attractiveness is the most under your control thing there is. Women don’t wake up looking like that and you don’t have to either. It’s not that important though. The real part is keeping the relationship going, not finding it. Also, have you seen Pete Davidson? He looks like a drowned rat.
      - throw6383878 4y ago
        How do you increase your height by 15 inches?
        astrange 4y ago
        Just don’t date 5’4”-ish American white women and you’re good. The height complex is mostly a them thing. In particular, taller women don’t care.
        throw6383878 4y ago
        So it is not under my control?
        Volrath89 4y ago
        Move to Guatemala where the average female height is 4'11. This is the average, so there are shorter women than that.
    - lordnacho 4y ago
      There's some genetic component, but you can control how clean you are, how fat you are, and what you are wearing. Do that and practice talking to women, and then you're attractive. Some of the guys I know who get the most women are not particularly handsome at all, they just do a lot of talking to women and thus are good at leading the conversion to where it needs to go. I'm sure you are aware of a subculture of men who go out in town to meet women. All they're doing is practicing a lot.
- s5300 4y ago
  I’m not attractive either, swear to god, & HN is the last place on the internet I’d be spending the very small & precious amount of energy I have in my days anymore to humblebrag, if I were going to. I’m also like, 5’6”, but with my posture, probably look 5’5”. I think if you were perhaps 5’2” as a male, I may slightly sympathize with you & the stigma surrounding male height, but I’ve still met more than a few dudes that short who do just fine. When you say you’re not attractive that really does nothing for anybody trying to give you advice. Do you have a hideously deformed face from a birth defect or accident? Okay, if so, that’s understandable. Are you morbidly obese? Okay, if so, that’s understandable - & highly likely to be a personal choice of yours that can be changed within a year. Otherwise, seriously, I just don’t get it. If you have a stereotypically ugly face, it really doesn’t matter if you otherwise have decent posture, the other stuff I listed, & some form of job. As cringey as it sounds, it’s otherwise just your mindset. & yeah, I’ve met plenty of people who don’t want to accept or acknowledge this is the reason, or even slightly want to change it. If you don’t want to help yourself, nobody in this world can help you. & fwiw & the last I’ll comment on it - the thing that gets the most people approaching me, the very last hobby of mine my body barely lets me do, is a style of skateboarding. So if you’re down so bad, maybe try that. Before that, it was practically… every hobby. This is why I truly genuinely state one interesting hobby. Doing hobby level work in a machine shop/maker space & after hours math meetups in college were probably the other two biggest attractors in my past life. Even hiking works, man. & you don’t even have to like it in the slightest… just pretend you do. @astrange - thanks for your comment, I saw as I was writing this out & it really hits home more than anything I can further ramble about. I do not know what goes through the minds of those who do not understand this very simple thing.
  - symlinkk 4y ago
    I’m over 6 ft tall but I am lanky and my face is ugly.
    - Volrath89 4y ago
      Only very young women (teens and early twenties) care about the attractiveness of your face. After 23-25 I can confidently say it is the last thing they look at. Women of all ages look at height, though. So, if you are over 6', you can consider yourself extremely lucky, people are literally breaking their bone legs with a surgery to grow a few inches. About being lanky. I was also very skinny my whole life, I could eat anything including unhealthy fast food, sodas, etc and never gain weight. I thought that my "metabolism was too fast", that it was genetic, and that I could not change it. Until this year where I actually wanted a change and went from 130 to 160 lbs (58kg to 72kg). I'm 5'10 (177 cm). And for the first time of my life, I can wear something that actually fits and looks good on me.
MrBuddyCasino 4y ago
> unfortunately have the look/bare bones facial structure of what a stereotypical neo-nazi looks like This is why you pull girls. Women are not interested in average men at all. They either want the tar-heroin injecting bass player, violent serial killer or the billionaire.
- s5300 4y ago
  You’re making the presumption of an actual Aryan Nazi from Germany. I specifically said Neo-Nazi, which entails having the facial structure of a loser who thinks they’re “muhh master race” - I’m essentially a genetic mutt from the MidWest. I don’t have nice heroin chic cheek bones or a chiseled jaw line or anything. But discussing this is dumb & fruitless, I probably shouldn’t even be replying. Actually - I’ll give one last piece of advice >> They either want the tar-heroin injecting bass player, violent serial killer or the billionaire. Do not, under any circumstances, align yourself with any woman/human who you’ve learned has a personality like this. It’s that simple. That’s a disgusting personality. Most women are not like this & I’ve typically immediately ghosted the few I’ve ended up meeting that are. It sounds like you want a girl who’s into that & just want to fantasize that you’re the tar-heroin injecting bass player, violent serial killer or the billionaire - but you aren’t, & never will be. Not sure why anybody would want to live with a mindset like that.
  - MrBuddyCasino 4y ago
    You're barking up the wrong tree. I'm in a happy relationship for many years.
    - s5300 4y ago
- bigDinosaur 4y ago
  I assume you're making a joke because this is obviously not true considering the definition of the word 'average' and so on.
9530jh9054ven 4y ago
> I’m a destitute & mostly disabled cripple that hasn’t been able to work in three years, has had no stable income for much longer, & unfortunately have the look/bare bones facial structure of what a stereotypical neo-nazi looks like (imo), yet I still have conventionally attractive women (and… men/others…) approach me, & have very little issue in finding romance/partners if I go out of my way to approach somebody. I think you might be underestimating yourself slightly. I'm something of an incel; not so much about sex, but incapable of emotionally bonding to people in general. And at least it seems most people are able to pick up rather quickly on the fact that there's something fundamentally wrong with me, and understandably distance themselves. A destitute cripple can still function as a person that other people can enjoy; an ability to empathize, or an enjoyment of company of others is something I think most people have, including you. Some capability of being able to understand, connect, and respond to others. So please don't put yourself down too much if you have at least that much ability. It seems as if you're still just a normal decent person at the end of the day.