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> If you are actually offended by someone mispronouncing your name, then everything else in life is probably going to be extremely difficult. You apply your ow

> If you are actually offended by someone mispronouncing your name, then everything else in life is probably going to be extremely difficult. You apply your own indifference, which is perfectly fine to have, so broadly to other people whose contexts you know nothing about. To assume that because you're at peace with your name getting mispronounced in the context of your life, other people should feel the same within the context of theirs, is pretty glib. There's no need to trivialise a situation that has nothing to do with you with such an off-hand remark.

sn0w_crash 4y ago
This was not an attempt to trivialize anyones experience. Im a non English native immigrant surrounded by immigrants. People are free to feel different about the topic. It doesn’t change reality: if you’re going to allow yourself to be distressed by the occasional mispronunciation of your own name, in a world with so many different languages and cultures, then the level of your mental development is such that most of life’s actual hardships will seem completely out of reach. Imagine such a person having to speak with a customs agent in another country, or going to the DMV, or doing something difficult, like filing their taxes. Even the most basic of human interactions would be distressing.
- Okawari 4y ago
  I'm a non native English speaker with a name that is written exactly like a very common English name. In my native tongue the pronunciation is different from English by quite a bit. There is no way anyone could pronounce it without having background information like my nationality. It would be unfair to expect anyone to get it right without they knowledge, and it would be annoying to reveal that info whenever meeting someone in order to allow them to "get it right". On a more general note. I find it jarring when people mess up to the intonation and flow just to "correctly" pronounce a foreign name which is outside the norm for the language the conversation is in. It sounds like those memes where people replace key words to rewrite the dialogue. If i speak my native tongue, then I will pronounce my name like it is supposed to, if not then the pronunciation with the least amount of friction will do just fine.
akomtu 4y ago
Why stop at the names? Imagine someone thinks he is a samurai, and thus all others must bow to him a little to express their respect. If they refuse or "forget", he must punish the offenders. We can master the art of feeling offended together.

sn0w_crash 4y ago

This was not an attempt to trivialize anyones experience. Im a non English native immigrant surrounded by immigrants. People are free to feel different about the topic. It doesn’t change reality: if you’re going to allow yourself to be distressed by the occasional mispronunciation of your own name, in a world with so many different languages and cultures, then the level of your mental development is such that most of life’s actual hardships will seem completely out of reach. Imagine such a person having to speak with a customs agent in another country, or going to the DMV, or doing something difficult, like filing their taxes. Even the most basic of human interactions would be distressing.

Okawari 4y ago
I'm a non native English speaker with a name that is written exactly like a very common English name. In my native tongue the pronunciation is different from English by quite a bit. There is no way anyone could pronounce it without having background information like my nationality. It would be unfair to expect anyone to get it right without they knowledge, and it would be annoying to reveal that info whenever meeting someone in order to allow them to "get it right". On a more general note. I find it jarring when people mess up to the intonation and flow just to "correctly" pronounce a foreign name which is outside the norm for the language the conversation is in. It sounds like those memes where people replace key words to rewrite the dialogue. If i speak my native tongue, then I will pronounce my name like it is supposed to, if not then the pronunciation with the least amount of friction will do just fine.

akomtu 4y ago

Why stop at the names? Imagine someone thinks he is a samurai, and thus all others must bow to him a little to express their respect. If they refuse or "forget", he must punish the offenders. We can master the art of feeling offended together.