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Define attractiveness please, it is a bit of an ambiguous term. My definition of attractiveness includes behavior, and the only unattractive behavior that migh

Define attractiveness please, it is a bit of an ambiguous term. My definition of attractiveness includes behavior, and the only unattractive behavior that might put your career at risk is if you ask people out in extremely awkward ways or don't handle rejection well. Otherwise there should be no career risk to stating interest in getting to know a person more that you find interesting.

unsupp0rted 4y ago
Attractive = somebody I’m flattered to be approached by Unattractive = somebody who should know I’m way out of their league and since they don’t it’s creepy and slightly embarrassing to me that they’re trying to get a shot
- arcturus17 4y ago
  I got past that when I was like 20. If someone asks me out now and I don’t find them attractive I’m not embarrassed in the slightest and I can graciously say no to them.
- matthewmacleod 4y ago
  This is properly embarrassing incel-tier stuff dude, and it’s not good for you. The more you repeat it, the more you will start to believe it, and the more you will start to act in a way that telegraphs your self-image to others. There’s nothing less attractive than a guy who—regardless of physical appearance—is unaware of the “nice guy” vibes they are projecting. You do you, but I’d wager if you get off of the internet and talk to some human beings without “trying to get a shot” you’ll be way happier.
  - unsupp0rted 4y ago
    Another commenter posted the same concept in the form of an SNL skit. https://youtu.be/PxuUkYiaUc8 https://youtu.be/PxuUkYiaUc8 The reason that skit is funny and relatable is because it doesn’t take an incel to recognize this nuance of women’s reactions to being approached by two different classes of men.
- pmoriarty 4y ago
  "Unattractive = somebody who should know I’m way out of their league and since they don’t it’s creepy and slightly embarrassing to me that they’re trying to get a shot" I wonder why I keep seeing couples where one of them is super attractive and the other is the opposite. Sure, sometimes it's simply prostitution, but many times it's not. I've also met quite a few very attractive women who've told me that the way a guy looks is not nearly as important to them as their personality... and judging by the guys they've dated, that's true.
  - bradlys 4y ago
    You’re seeing couples often are they’ve been together for a while. Many men workout and get into good physical shape. Later they stop going to the gym cause they have someone. Their appetite doesn’t change but their exercise routine did. They gain fat. This is why you see a ton of overweight dudes with women that seem more physically attractive than them. The guys were in shape - they just got fat once they were together because he didn’t need to workout to get the girl anymore. This is the overwhelming majority of overweight men with thin women that you’ll see. Same with baldness - etc. People should look at the couples when they first got together.
dandellion 4y ago
Are you talking from your experience as an unattractive person? I've met lots of average and attractive people that have a very warped perception of what being unattractive actually is like, and they say similar things. But then reality teaches you something completely differently.

unsupp0rted 4y ago

Attractive = somebody I’m flattered to be approached by Unattractive = somebody who should know I’m way out of their league and since they don’t it’s creepy and slightly embarrassing to me that they’re trying to get a shot

arcturus17 4y ago
I got past that when I was like 20. If someone asks me out now and I don’t find them attractive I’m not embarrassed in the slightest and I can graciously say no to them.
matthewmacleod 4y ago
This is properly embarrassing incel-tier stuff dude, and it’s not good for you. The more you repeat it, the more you will start to believe it, and the more you will start to act in a way that telegraphs your self-image to others. There’s nothing less attractive than a guy who—regardless of physical appearance—is unaware of the “nice guy” vibes they are projecting. You do you, but I’d wager if you get off of the internet and talk to some human beings without “trying to get a shot” you’ll be way happier.
- unsupp0rted 4y ago
  Another commenter posted the same concept in the form of an SNL skit. https://youtu.be/PxuUkYiaUc8 https://youtu.be/PxuUkYiaUc8 The reason that skit is funny and relatable is because it doesn’t take an incel to recognize this nuance of women’s reactions to being approached by two different classes of men.
pmoriarty 4y ago
"Unattractive = somebody who should know I’m way out of their league and since they don’t it’s creepy and slightly embarrassing to me that they’re trying to get a shot" I wonder why I keep seeing couples where one of them is super attractive and the other is the opposite. Sure, sometimes it's simply prostitution, but many times it's not. I've also met quite a few very attractive women who've told me that the way a guy looks is not nearly as important to them as their personality... and judging by the guys they've dated, that's true.
- bradlys 4y ago
  You’re seeing couples often are they’ve been together for a while. Many men workout and get into good physical shape. Later they stop going to the gym cause they have someone. Their appetite doesn’t change but their exercise routine did. They gain fat. This is why you see a ton of overweight dudes with women that seem more physically attractive than them. The guys were in shape - they just got fat once they were together because he didn’t need to workout to get the girl anymore. This is the overwhelming majority of overweight men with thin women that you’ll see. Same with baldness - etc. People should look at the couples when they first got together.

dandellion 4y ago

Are you talking from your experience as an unattractive person? I've met lots of average and attractive people that have a very warped perception of what being unattractive actually is like, and they say similar things. But then reality teaches you something completely differently.