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Tinder and other dating apps are making it even harder... People will say that it's because of the creeps etc, but as long as men have almost no matches if the

by jokoon 4y ago

Tinder and other dating apps are making it even harder... People will say that it's because of the creeps etc, but as long as men have almost no matches if they don't pay, it's not going to lead to a good experience, which leads to even worse experience for women who won't use it. Online dating deserves it's awful reputation. It's time that a good documentary highlights how those platforms work.

toomuchtodo 4y ago
Top 80% of women compete for the top 20% of men on dating apps. And then, there is a funnel where unpartnered women race to find a partner in their 30s for those who race to have kids before fertility rates decline. No one likes online dating, but everyone still defaults to it because third spaces where pairings traditionally occurred are evaporating. https://web.archive.org/web/20091121080804/http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/2009/11/17/your-looks-and-online-dating/ https://web.archive.org/web/20091121080804/http://blog.okcup... https://medium.com/@worstonlinedater/tinder-experiments-ii-guys-unless-you-are-really-hot-you-are-probably-better-off-not-wasting-your-2ddf370a6e9a https://medium.com/@worstonlinedater/tinder-experiments-ii-g... https://www.profgalloway.com/a-fewer-good-men/ https://www.profgalloway.com/a-fewer-good-men/ https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2008/03/marry-him/306651/ https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2008/03/marry-h... https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/6692099-marry-him https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/6692099-marry-him https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6731751/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6731751/ https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Third_place https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Third_place
- skinnymuch 4y ago
  What’s with that Quillette site being so right wing? Seems sus
  - toomuchtodo 4y ago
    Replaced that specific link with improved citations.
  - mellosouls 4y ago
    Countering progressive over-reach is not the same as being right-wing.

by jokoon 4y ago

toomuchtodo 4y ago

Top 80% of women compete for the top 20% of men on dating apps. And then, there is a funnel where unpartnered women race to find a partner in their 30s for those who race to have kids before fertility rates decline. No one likes online dating, but everyone still defaults to it because third spaces where pairings traditionally occurred are evaporating. https://web.archive.org/web/20091121080804/http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/2009/11/17/your-looks-and-online-dating/ https://web.archive.org/web/20091121080804/http://blog.okcup... https://medium.com/@worstonlinedater/tinder-experiments-ii-guys-unless-you-are-really-hot-you-are-probably-better-off-not-wasting-your-2ddf370a6e9a https://medium.com/@worstonlinedater/tinder-experiments-ii-g... https://www.profgalloway.com/a-fewer-good-men/ https://www.profgalloway.com/a-fewer-good-men/ https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2008/03/marry-him/306651/ https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2008/03/marry-h... https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/6692099-marry-him https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/6692099-marry-him https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6731751/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6731751/ https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Third_place https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Third_place

skinnymuch 4y ago
What’s with that Quillette site being so right wing? Seems sus
- toomuchtodo 4y ago
  Replaced that specific link with improved citations.
- mellosouls 4y ago
  Countering progressive over-reach is not the same as being right-wing.