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> What is the source of my confidence if not in work? Your whole comment is great, but this stuck out. My job is my self confidence and it is my self worth, wi

• wnolens 4y ago
  For sure. I relate. Like if I'm not a big money making guy, am I even attractive to women? Intimately tied to this question, is the judgment I make of others. Ye old projection ;) Is work all you've been doing for many years? Personal theory: I think a person needs several pillars in the foundation of their life. One will inevitably be in disrepair at any given time, but the others support you. For many it's.. family, friends, partner, a physical practice, and career. When my career is frustrating me, I walk away from my computer and have dinner with a friend or call my old man and see how he is. When a girlfriend dumps me, I work 60h weeks :) Putting all of yourself in one pillar is devastating when it falters, which it eventually will. Jobs are pretty important, even if big picture we all die and wish we worked less. Practically, it's central to the life and identity of a modern human. So you're not struggling with nothing, despite what spiritual teachers (pseudo, or otherwise) try to tell you.