A lot of people are saying "you sound depressed, fix that before you have kids", but to me, it sounds like you're depressed--like you say--because you think you

A lot of people are saying "you sound depressed, fix that before you have kids", but to me, it sounds like you're depressed--like you say--because you think you missed your opportunity to have kids. This isn't abnormal, some people I know quite well had intense anxiety at the prospect of being infertile, and I know a few others who have struggled with depression when that turned out to be fact. It's a big loss to grieve, so I think your feelings here are valid. I also agree with the commenters here who say you should check with your partner, and if they're game go see a fertility specialist. Being on the same page here is important: at her age she'll be high-risk, and the possibility of pregnancy/delivery being harder increases substantially, as well as the possibility of birth defects, etc. It sounds abstract, but what this translates into is intense pain for months, and abortions if things go wrong. The stakes are pretty high. But that said, I wish you the best of luck! The door may not be closed to you two and it's worth checking into.