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Children cost the most thing during the first year. Even a 1.5 years old gives you plenty of time to do stuff. You either wake up early or sleep late. Arrange w
by hsn915 4y ago
Children cost the most thing during the first year. Even a 1.5 years old gives you plenty of time to do stuff. You either wake up early or sleep late. Arrange with your spouse to take turns. Etc. At least 4 hours of free time.
- kleiba 4y agoThat does not match my experience. First, you might have more than one child, so it might take a while between the birth of the oldest one and the time the youngest one is 1.5 years old. Second, having a full-time job + commute + eating + running errands + actually spending time with your children + X is not only time consuming, it is also very tiring. Of course it depends on how old you are when you become a parent - and only a few years can make a big difference - but I can tell you, after a full day, you're toast when the kids are in bed. I'm regularly getting up very early so I can be done with my day job early in order to maximize the time I get to spend with my children. But that means that in the hours I have "off", I wouldn't be capable of working on, say, a hobby video game the way I used to be able to when I was in my 20s or even 30s and single.
- hsn915 4y agoYea if you have to commute it's a different story. I'm talking with the experience of mostly WFH beacuse of Covid.
- adrianN 4y agoI don't have four hours of free time even without children...
- APITestAccount 4y agoThen something else is wrong with your life. 8 hours of sleep, 8 hours of work, these leaves 8 hours of personal time + 32 hours on weekends. Where exactly are >4 hours going each day?
- batiudrami 4y agoCommute, exercise, grocery shopping, cooking, household upkeep? All the usual stuff?
- theodric 4y agoI recently had a boss tell me that the two hours I used to spend standing on a packed train being coughed on by other commuters was "your time." I must conclude that the parent poster either has a similar worldview to that boss, or has someone who takes care of the chores for them so they have more time available for wakeboarding. The 1-3 hours that I have to spend being fucking fried and incapacitated after concluding another packed, overly-long workday are, likewise, "my time." Such a blessing.
- hsn915 4y agoThese are all the things that new parents have no time for. Exercise? lol Shopping? Need to plan for it. Cooking? Near impossible if the other parent is not around.
- freedom2099 4y agoMe and my wife don’t have any problems finding time for these things with only one child!
- shawabawa3 4y agoCommuting is the one thing I simply cannot stand wasting time on Very early in my career i worked a job with a 1 hour each way commute. Quit it after a year and never again applied to a job that was more than 30mins from my house - best decision I ever made Of course then covid came and now I work remotely with 0 mins commute. Grocery shopping, cooking, household chores take up maybe 1 hour max per day for me, average probably more like 30mins