If you try to build your life around brunch (or bars or camping trips) then it's not a surprise getting some structure and something to care about makes you hap

If you try to build your life around brunch (or bars or camping trips) then it's not a surprise getting some structure and something to care about makes you happier. Many people find happiness having kids but there is no denying other life pursuits will suffer. There is less time and less energy no matter how you cut it. The priorities will change as well as they should - why have kids if they are not very important part of your life. Someone with less time, less energy and different things to prioritize will never get as far in creative pursuits, business, sports, scientific research. It's fine but it's a trade-off. Don't pretend the child free option is just a bar night or brunch with friends. If it is, you really haven't even started figuring it out.