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The kids being down at 730/19:30 doesn’t mean everything is done: Laundry, cleaning after dinner, tidying up, ordering groceries/making shopping lists, actuall

by spockz 4y ago

The kids being down at 730/19:30 doesn’t mean everything is done: Laundry, cleaning after dinner, tidying up, ordering groceries/making shopping lists, actually doing groceries, fixing something in/at house/car/garden, taking out trash(diapers), paper/plastic, researching which child seat to buy when they get bigger, parent/teacher sessions. This when you are lucky. Maybe even preparation for work or study is needed still. Etcetera. Just to point out that free time and therefore a moment for yourself doesn’t automatically start the moment kids are at bed.

Aeolun 4y ago
It’s not that I disagree, but all those things need doing just as much if your kids are in bed at 9:30 at the earliest.
nlitened 4y ago
Have you tried outsourcing all the chores? Get a nanny, a gardener, a personal assistant, hire handymen, don’t cook at home. Sorry for being analytical about it, I am personally interested in having kids—and so far it seems to me that you’re overburdening yourself with too much stuff that you don’t have to do at all.
- spockz 4y ago
  I can outsource and I do, I also readily buy any tool or appliance that saves me time. But not everyone is as well of that they can afford to do that. Also, I have found that there is significant benefit in doing chores yourself. At least it gives me a sense of accomplishment and a chance to do something with my hands instead of thinking a lot and then wiggle some fingers to type or draw PowerPoint.
withinboredom 4y ago
My wife is a morning person. I am not. She does all the morning stuff, and gets the kiddo to school before I even wake up. I put our kid to bed, do the dishes, and game/hobby stuff until midnight to 2am. My wife enjoys her quiet mornings before I wake up and the kiddo is in school, I enjoy my quiet evenings when everyone is in bed. I can’t imagine how couples that are both morning or night people can function. It must be so different.

by spockz 4y ago

Aeolun 4y ago

It’s not that I disagree, but all those things need doing just as much if your kids are in bed at 9:30 at the earliest.

nlitened 4y ago

Have you tried outsourcing all the chores? Get a nanny, a gardener, a personal assistant, hire handymen, don’t cook at home. Sorry for being analytical about it, I am personally interested in having kids—and so far it seems to me that you’re overburdening yourself with too much stuff that you don’t have to do at all.

spockz 4y ago
I can outsource and I do, I also readily buy any tool or appliance that saves me time. But not everyone is as well of that they can afford to do that. Also, I have found that there is significant benefit in doing chores yourself. At least it gives me a sense of accomplishment and a chance to do something with my hands instead of thinking a lot and then wiggle some fingers to type or draw PowerPoint.

withinboredom 4y ago

My wife is a morning person. I am not. She does all the morning stuff, and gets the kiddo to school before I even wake up. I put our kid to bed, do the dishes, and game/hobby stuff until midnight to 2am. My wife enjoys her quiet mornings before I wake up and the kiddo is in school, I enjoy my quiet evenings when everyone is in bed. I can’t imagine how couples that are both morning or night people can function. It must be so different.