Good point. Another comment mentioned therapy which could help the OP look inward. Running around thinking that everyone else is the problem is never a recipe

Good point. Another comment mentioned therapy which could help the OP look inward. Running around thinking that everyone else is the problem is never a recipe for success. My favorite thought whenever I feel myself slipping into that mode is to think 'do I want to be right or effective'. It immediately puts me in an in control, empathetic, problem solving mindset.