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I gave up after a paragraph or two. It looked like it was going to moan about people trying to have fun and do some self care. I don’t have time for that. Over

• kwhitefoot 4y ago
  > you also need to complain about adults using armies to take resources and businesses blocking others out of markets. Don't we do that all the time?
• rtanks 4y ago
  So true
• nicoburns 4y ago
  > However, the higher up the power/success ladder you look, the harder these behaviours are to see. I don't have strong evidence for this, but I always feel like this is true until you get right to the very top - the individuals and organisations that are considered leaders in their fields. The difference between those people/organisations and the rest is often exactly that they are supportive, collaborative and doing things for the right reasons relative to the big picture rather than their local political context. It's harder to succeed if you don't engage with the "playground tactics", but those who do are the ones pushing society forwards.
  • the_other 4y ago
    > It's harder to succeed if you don't engage with the "playground tactics", but those who do are the ones pushing society forwards. And in many cases, some of them are holding us back. But your point still stands and I'm gonna think on it in coming weeks.
• 2OEH8eoCRo0 4y ago
  Further down: > But as the legendary Midcentury Modern designer Charles Eames put it, ‘toys and games are the preludes to serious ideas.’ Grownups who play with Lego, dump fortunes into JPEGs of cartoon characters online or dress like overgrown toddlers force us to question long-held assumptions about adulthood and society as a whole.
  • fluoridation 4y ago
    I don't like the implication that those are somehow less worthy ways to spend one's time and money, or that the tendency towards those interests betrays some... divergent cognition or eccentricity. Pick any interest that you think is "proper" for an adult; the person who engages in it either enjoys it, in which case it's indistinguishable from any interest that doesn't meet that criterion, or they don't enjoy it, in which case the person is rather silly for using their free time to do things they don't enjoy.
    • nobodyandproud 4y ago
      It’s a generational article, for anyone of a certain age or older, explaining why what we see as “infantalization” serves a purpose and may yield very positive outcomes.
      • fluoridation 4y ago
        My problem is that it's not challenging its audience's assumption that the activities in question are childish. It tacitly grants that they're childish, and then tries to defend them by looking for a positive side. The corollary is that if that positive side didn't exist the reader would be justified in being outraged at what young people are doing.
        • nobodyandproud 4y ago
          I don’t think that’s feasible, because the activities are child-like. Asking for that perspective shift requires a lifetime. What the article does challenge successfully is whether the negative connotations are merited. i.e., childish. And it uses a real life example to argue that it’s not merited at the big picture level.
• Folcon 4y ago
  As much as I think the rest of what you're saying is a really good point, I do think the article has some interesting things it says as well. For example: > By framing the embrace of childish sensibilities purely as a moral failing, and lumping all forms of it together, critics like Sasse and Andersen miss two important points. One is that there is a nourishing form of regression that harnesses the playfulness, creativity and diversity of childhood, but there is also a destructive form that manifests as blind rage. Both forms of regression are fuelled by a certain disappointment with society. Both crave the creation of something new. But one delights in transgressing boundaries through play, while the other polices boundaries through hate and violence.
• raydiatian 4y ago
  > So, I’m saying “we’re all children”. If you want to complain about adults playing games and wearing bright colours, you also need to complain about adults using armies to take resources and businesses blocking others out of markets. I feel the same, but, this is one of those all or nothing things, and the irony is that our own barbaric origins are holding us back from ‘evolving’ so to speak. We have armies and nuclear armaments because, when it boils down; our species is full of agitated hungry animals, liars and cheats. You’d need to organize a whole species around a single-world order if you ever wanted to stop wars and denuclearize.
  • hoseja 4y ago
    "using armies to take resources and businesses blocking others out of markets" is literally "evolving". Natural selection, baby. It's not pretty. Unipolarity isn't the only solution but it's the most apparent one, and also the most terrifyingly totalitarian one.
    • raydiatian 4y ago
      I mean I can really only imagine two broad categories for “solutions” 1) Someone demonstrates a bigger stick. At this point a bigger stick is effective counter-nukes, or perhaps the presence of an alien civilization. 2) What you call unipolarity, although I think both are unipolarity. Mass behavioral transcendence towards a higher form of morality. Maybe achieved via BCI, or improving standard of living, or subtle coercions by AI, or looming threat of climate change prompting transformative cooperative efforts. The latter was omitted for brevity, due to its unlikelihood. Of course it’s not binary, there’s a bit of each in the other.
    • trinsic2 4y ago
      Yeah that's a grim way to look at the world. And there are many who are engaging in that mindset. There will come a time when taking from others because of the unwillingness to be a creative member of society is seen as a curable mental illness.
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• orblivion 4y ago
  Axe throwing, IPAs, cosplay outfits? Learn to play golf and drink scotch in your smoking jacket like an adult.
  • couchand 4y ago
    You're telling me kids won't chase a tiny ball around a yard or convince each other to consume things that are gross?
    • d3nj4l 4y ago
      They have way more fun doing it, though.
    • sbaiddn 4y ago
      You said it, they're kids! If you can't man up and drink something gross without grimacing, or have the self control to play the most frustrating game in history, you don't have the self-mastery to be near the lever of power.
  • sbaiddn 4y ago
    The only creative thing left in IPA brewing is figuring out a marijuana reference that hasn't been done yet.
    • chongli 4y ago
      The real creativity in IPAs is in the different cultivars of hops. That is to say, the real work of making a delicious beverage is done by the plants and the people who grow them tend to be the experts. But this is no different to wine or coffee, two other classes of beverage with endless varieties and variations of characteristics. Just try to ignore the social pretences of the group. All three beverage communities have their extremists who can be quite annoying. But on the other end of the spectrum you’ll find some warm, down-to-earth people who just want to have fun exploring different flavours and textures. That’s really all there is to it!
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• strikelaserclaw 4y ago
  our richest man is essentially a man child and i believe mores in society are always established by those at the top.
  • spaceman_2020 4y ago
    How is he a “man child”? Does tweeting funny memes or light trolling make you child? If yes, is that not negated by raising multiple children, founding multiple businesses, and employing hundreds of people?
    • Mountain_Skies 4y ago
      He has incorrect politics and therefore is any negative label one can create.
    • strikelaserclaw 4y ago
      i meant man child as in, he does not prescribe to what an "adult" should behave like according to old societal standards. I'm making no moral judgments, as i too am what most would consider a "man child".
• sp332 4y ago
  It takes a bit to get going, but the article does go somewhere. Search for the word "corollary" and go from there.
• oytis 4y ago
  > I don’t see (many) “successful” or “leader” type people publicly engaging in so called “adult behaviours” This depends on the public pressure to do so I believe. As a counterexample one could name German ex-chancellor Angela Merkel. You can hardly name any decisions she carries full responsibility for, her role was mostly to mediate finding a compromise between interests of different parties.
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• bigodbiel 4y ago
  Very true, childish behavior, specially by decision makers, is the bane of society (always has been). Cosplaying by adults should be the least of our worries, and besides it isn't even a recent phenonema (at least not for men): carnival, secret cults, religious ceremonies.
  • zmgsabst 4y ago
    Attending a masquerade was a sign of high society — all the way up to royalty. I’m confused how that’s fundamentally different than cosplay at a convention.
• giantg2 4y ago
  I made it farther than that, but also stopped. It seemed to go on and on without making it's point. It also seems it missed a big part (unless they talk about it later). Sure, some people might be doing stuff because of hardships and responsibilities (like living at home to save money). But I think there are also those who were not given responsibilities as a child and don't know how to be responsible and act like an adult now that they are one. I think the delays are even evident in our laws (age of many things continues to increase).
• gilbetron 4y ago
  I wouldn't say I liked the article, but it did have some nuance to it and ended with mostly an opposite conclusion: "The seemingly extreme ways in which adults now play, from Zillennial runway models dressing like kindergarteners, to ‘cuddle parties’, to grownups who choose to marry at Disney resorts – all of it, and more to come – is a reaction to the extreme times in which we find ourselves living. The entire planet may be experiencing its own lost decades now – young and old are suffering. But, as the Japanese experience shows us, embracing our inner child isn’t necessarily a denial of reality. It can pave the way to an entirely new one. The Great Regression isn’t really a regression at all. It’s a sign of resilience in the face of profound adversity. When a child is born, it’s impossible to predict what they might become. Who can say what will emerge from our second childhoods?"
• evancox100 4y ago
  > It looked like it was going to moan about people trying to have fun and do some self care. That is basically the opposite of what it said.
  • shlant 4y ago
    who knew that not reading an article could lead you to the opposite conclusion of what the article is actually about! But a comment must be made on it regardless. On to the next one.
• DavidSharff 4y ago
  > I gave up after a paragraph or two. It looked like it was going to moan about people trying to have fun and do some self care. I don’t have time for that. The author had quite the opposite conclusion: > The Great Regression isn’t really a regression at all. It’s a sign of resilience in the face of profound adversity. Just as I was fading a few paragraphs in, one of the straw men (IMHO) thrown out caught my eye. How had I not heard of Alexis de Tocqueville's 1835 critique, Democracy in America? If you want to wrestle with someone making a much better form of the argument you (understandably) thought was in the article, check it out: https://xroads.virginia.edu/~Hyper/DETOC/ch4_06.htm https://xroads.virginia.edu/~Hyper/DETOC/ch4_06.htm Honestly, you and Tocqueville are saying something very similar at the core. A polite society has a known exploit: not behaving politely. The exploit is used by those seeking to amass power and influence. The result, he posits: > It would be like the authority of a parent if, like that authority, its object was to prepare men for manhood; but it seeks, on the contrary, to keep them in perpetual childhood: it is well content that the people should rejoice, provided they think of nothing but rejoicing. For their happiness such a government willingly labors, but it chooses to be the sole agent and the only arbiter of that happiness; it provides for their security, foresees and supplies their necessities, facilitates their pleasures, manages their principal concerns, directs their industry, regulates the descent of property, and subdivides their inheritances: what remains, but to spare them all the care of thinking and all the trouble of living?
  • the_other 4y ago
    Great reply. Thanks. Will ponder and (at least aim to) put this on my reading list.
    • sekia 4y ago
      It's funny that you are going to spend time on the article after knowing its conclusion (, which is acceptable for you).
• mistermann 4y ago
  > Over time, I’ve come to see many “senior” or “success” behaviours as refined versions of childhood ones. Political sniping, business competitiveness, standard hierarchical power dynamics, etc. These are all “playground tactics” but grown up. I don’t see (many) “successful” or “leader” type people publicly engaging in so called “adult behaviours” - supporting, sharing, collaborating, taking time out to understand one another’s needs, looking for win-wins. It isn't very hard though to find plenty of people acting out those behaviors, both in their own behavior and in the perception/description of the behavior of their in-group members. Adults in 2022 can be conceptualized as being a lot like children "playing house", except we lack a physical frame of reference representing superior competence and wisdom to humble us, as adults provide for children.
• Micoloth 4y ago
  I agree with everything you say about the article, except for the idea that aggressiveness (in all its form) has historically been considered more childish that collaboration. I mean, the ability to go to war, together with being a father, has always been considered as the maximum level of adulthood for men, as far as I understand. And to be clear, I’m not even say that latest generations are “less adult”, ie “less aggressive”, because they are somehow “better”. In my view, this is a direct consequence of the fact that in the current society, aggressiveness is simply a less effective strategy, on average. Civilization is too complex now, and there are simply too many people around, for aggressive war-like behaviour to be succesful. Even the most hypercompetitive youth today, say in startups or such, are usually extremely diplomatic persons, that are able to navigate people. “We are all children” because there is simply no more room to be aggressive!
• the_other 4y ago
  Thanks to all who've encouraged me to read the rest of the article. I will.