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It sounds like you're not really over the job. If you were, you would be fixedly focused on getting a new one. So my guess is that anything you do about pulling

It sounds like you're not really over the job. If you were, you would be fixedly focused on getting a new one. So my guess is that anything you do about pulling back effort or leaving whilst working from this mindset is going to be half-hearted. I personally think advice on this matter will be wasted, because if it mattered to you, you would have figured out an answer to your question yourself. People naturally drag their feet on things they don't believe in and aren't excited for, it's not a learned skill. Anyway, if I'm right, it follows that you're struggling to do the bare minimum because people who care don't do the bare minimum, they do their best, often at expense to themselves. I would suggest maybe you try to come up with some rules (no emails before X AM or after Y PM, answer emails at least 1 day after receipt, work no overtime unless asked) and you could practice them until it becomes reflex. On top of this, I find it useful to look at what your 'worst' peers are doing and slowly adjust the pace of work to meet them if you're outperforming them. Whatever you do, start the search for a new job now. It takes time and applying and interviewing is a skill that you should practice, something amazing may come up and you can go for it, but you won't know unless you look. If you're aiming at big companies, you don't want to have to wait to the last minute when they give you notice to start grinding leetcode questions, do you?

mlr22 4y ago
Thanks a ton. Very useful. I did think about such rules. (for example work 9 to 5 etc). But it's difficult to implement since I think a lot about the work even after knowing I am not valued. (I bring a lot of value to the table. They do know. But they are playing the politics). Good point on what 'worst' peers are doing. Most of them have quit/asked to quit/moved to different teams. Very few left now to compare to. They make a lot of noise all the time and fooling the incompetent management. I still haven't started searching for job because 1) Work life balance is good here 2) I hate interview focussed learning. I am more interested in broader technology/problem statement/solution based learning.
- caminante 4y ago
  Maintain social health and get exercise. You should be doing these already, but now they're more important. Talk to a therapist. No shame.
- bostonsre 4y ago
  You may be forced into searching for a job later if you don't do it now. Doing it now will be a lot easier than if you have no job and time is running out down the line. There is no reason why you can't find another job with a good work life balance and I don't completely understand the second reason you don't want to search for a job,it may sound harsh but it kind of sounds like an excuse to help avoid going through uncomfortable interviews. They aren't fun, but you will need to do them eventually.

mlr22 4y ago

Thanks a ton. Very useful. I did think about such rules. (for example work 9 to 5 etc). But it's difficult to implement since I think a lot about the work even after knowing I am not valued. (I bring a lot of value to the table. They do know. But they are playing the politics). Good point on what 'worst' peers are doing. Most of them have quit/asked to quit/moved to different teams. Very few left now to compare to. They make a lot of noise all the time and fooling the incompetent management. I still haven't started searching for job because 1) Work life balance is good here 2) I hate interview focussed learning. I am more interested in broader technology/problem statement/solution based learning.

caminante 4y ago
Maintain social health and get exercise. You should be doing these already, but now they're more important. Talk to a therapist. No shame.
bostonsre 4y ago
You may be forced into searching for a job later if you don't do it now. Doing it now will be a lot easier than if you have no job and time is running out down the line. There is no reason why you can't find another job with a good work life balance and I don't completely understand the second reason you don't want to search for a job,it may sound harsh but it kind of sounds like an excuse to help avoid going through uncomfortable interviews. They aren't fun, but you will need to do them eventually.