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I got a very spooky email from HR a few years back: "Hi, this is X from HR. We want to talk to you about an incident that occurred a few months ago. Can we meet

by 4pkjai 4y ago

I got a very spooky email from HR a few years back: "Hi, this is X from HR. We want to talk to you about an incident that occurred a few months ago. Can we meet on Thursday 3 PM?" "Okay what incident are you referring to" "I'll let you know on Thursday" I then messaged my boss he told me the incident was something dodgey someone had said to me.

marsRoverDev 4y ago
They probably do this because they don't want anything committed to text. It still doesn't excuse it, but yeah, they're doing that intentionally. At a minimum they should say "this is not something you've done wrong".
atoav 4y ago
It is so simple to not do this. Either they could schedule a generic meeting among the lines of "I have some questions" or they could just tell you what incident this was going to be about.
- 4pkjai 4y ago
  Well a generic interview with HR is pretty spooky as well
martopix 4y ago
Reminds me of being called out of the classroom for a meeting with the head teacher when I was 12. I panicked immediately, because "go to the head teacher" was usually just to be told off.* Then my teacher specified "it's for GOOD news" and it changed completely. * in itself very wrong, the idea that authority is there just to punish you and head teachers should be something you're afraid of.
dade_ 4y ago
Our director of cybersecurity did something similar. I asked my manager, what’s going on, he had no idea. Completely unintentional, she wanted to speak about a RFP response, but it was completely out of context and I didn’t know she was reviewing it. Out of etiquette, everyone should think about context when sending a message. Probably more so in roles of authority and those that own “terminate-able offence” compliance. Also, people should check their paranoia. I’ve been working jobs for 30 years and never has the bad news or underhanded crap started with a message like this. Not that I don’t sometimes think this is the first time.
- wink 4y ago
  "Hey, got a minute?" "Sure." "I quit." "Yeah, that's what I thought you'd say." If certain things are already in the air then just this choice of words is probably enough. I mean, in this (real) example there's no real paranoia, not the "hey.. you're fired", but still.

by 4pkjai 4y ago

marsRoverDev 4y ago

They probably do this because they don't want anything committed to text. It still doesn't excuse it, but yeah, they're doing that intentionally. At a minimum they should say "this is not something you've done wrong".

atoav 4y ago

It is so simple to not do this. Either they could schedule a generic meeting among the lines of "I have some questions" or they could just tell you what incident this was going to be about.

4pkjai 4y ago
Well a generic interview with HR is pretty spooky as well

martopix 4y ago

Reminds me of being called out of the classroom for a meeting with the head teacher when I was 12. I panicked immediately, because "go to the head teacher" was usually just to be told off.* Then my teacher specified "it's for GOOD news" and it changed completely. * in itself very wrong, the idea that authority is there just to punish you and head teachers should be something you're afraid of.

dade_ 4y ago

Our director of cybersecurity did something similar. I asked my manager, what’s going on, he had no idea. Completely unintentional, she wanted to speak about a RFP response, but it was completely out of context and I didn’t know she was reviewing it. Out of etiquette, everyone should think about context when sending a message. Probably more so in roles of authority and those that own “terminate-able offence” compliance. Also, people should check their paranoia. I’ve been working jobs for 30 years and never has the bad news or underhanded crap started with a message like this. Not that I don’t sometimes think this is the first time.

wink 4y ago
"Hey, got a minute?" "Sure." "I quit." "Yeah, that's what I thought you'd say." If certain things are already in the air then just this choice of words is probably enough. I mean, in this (real) example there's no real paranoia, not the "hey.. you're fired", but still.