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You have one of the most desirable jobs in the world. Economic self-determination is a luxury of the rich, which you will be in a short while if you just stay p

by t-3 4y ago

You have one of the most desirable jobs in the world. Economic self-determination is a luxury of the rich, which you will be in a short while if you just stay put and keep working. Just get some hobbies outside work and stack money until you can afford to do nothing but what you want.

crawfordcomeaux 4y ago
I used to aspire to work in FAANG or start my own startup. I now live below the poverty line, using food stamps, have a child with a partner, am growing a community of supportive loving people, and am pursuing radically different projects of my own creation, including a culture construction carnival that's donation driven. Economic self-determination is a luxury of people who have lots of money AND/OR creativity AND/OR willingness to live radically. Fuck the norms. Postactivism is where it's at for meaningful life changes. That's a relatively recent word that effectively acknowledges that activism will always be necessary, so it makes sense to be in a way that accomplishes activism as a side effect, rather than setting aside time to do activism. There's no way I would trade what I'm doing now for money. And the things me and my friends are working on require life skills FAANG doesn't teach, like embracing death and communal healing. OP: don't let the money fool you. There are so many ways to go about life not involving money. Developing an awareness of what constitutes universal human needs and how to meet them without money can help focus on figuring out ways to cut money out of your life. This can help you dial down your dependencies on money. It will also reinforce the idea that money is absolutely not a need. Finding and accessing gift economies (such as Buy Nothing) is an easy first step to learning how to meet needs without money. Learning to live without money includes developing the skills of need identification, strategy identification, asking for help in coming up with the previous things, asking for and receiving freely given things/help, abandoning shame & healing through trauma around gift giving/receiving, and offering/giving freely offered things/help. Don't let haters sway you if you choose this path. Many people will try to shame or guilt you into not following this path with nonsense thinking like "you owe it to society to use money" or "you can't possibly cut out all money usage from your life and, even if you figure it out, you're a hypocrite if you use money in the meantime." Debt is a myth, especially debts to society. Hypocrisy is a shaming term for "in a transition from one state to another"; embrace messaged of hypocrisy as signs to keep going. Keep calm and clown on.
- jen20 4y ago
  > There's no way I would trade what I'm doing now for money. So what are you doing?
  - crawfordcomeaux 4y ago
    For the past 4 years, I've been a full-time stay-at-home parent experimenting heavily on how to nurture a child through anarchism. It is a full-time unpaid gig and I'm loving it. Most parents do not understand how we do what we do because they're afraid to allow kids the freedom and empowerment we allow for. Friends have found it exhausting to hang out with us because their childhood traumas start ringing when they see the kid do things they never would've been allowed to do and, instead of processing their trauma, they suppress their emotions, which takes a lot of energy. And now I'm starting a carnival circuit dedicated to culture hacking in order to help people repair/recover/revolutionize their cultures in order to better meet their needs.
    - crawfordcomeaux 4y ago
      To be clear: I wouldn't quit doing this job for one that pays money. I'd much rather work to make parenting a paying gig, since it's clearly exploited in modern society.
    - nopeYouAreWrong 4y ago
      Everything about this screams "Somebody please call Child Protective Services and get this guy committed" If you start gaining followers....you're starting a cult
      - crawfordcomeaux 4y ago
        What are you reading into this? I'm very curious what specific quotes suggest to you something questionable is going on.
      - askafriend 4y ago
        This is only going to end in disaster and life-long trauma for that child. Poor luck of the draw for that kid.

by t-3 4y ago

crawfordcomeaux 4y ago

I used to aspire to work in FAANG or start my own startup. I now live below the poverty line, using food stamps, have a child with a partner, am growing a community of supportive loving people, and am pursuing radically different projects of my own creation, including a culture construction carnival that's donation driven. Economic self-determination is a luxury of people who have lots of money AND/OR creativity AND/OR willingness to live radically. Fuck the norms. Postactivism is where it's at for meaningful life changes. That's a relatively recent word that effectively acknowledges that activism will always be necessary, so it makes sense to be in a way that accomplishes activism as a side effect, rather than setting aside time to do activism. There's no way I would trade what I'm doing now for money. And the things me and my friends are working on require life skills FAANG doesn't teach, like embracing death and communal healing. OP: don't let the money fool you. There are so many ways to go about life not involving money. Developing an awareness of what constitutes universal human needs and how to meet them without money can help focus on figuring out ways to cut money out of your life. This can help you dial down your dependencies on money. It will also reinforce the idea that money is absolutely not a need. Finding and accessing gift economies (such as Buy Nothing) is an easy first step to learning how to meet needs without money. Learning to live without money includes developing the skills of need identification, strategy identification, asking for help in coming up with the previous things, asking for and receiving freely given things/help, abandoning shame & healing through trauma around gift giving/receiving, and offering/giving freely offered things/help. Don't let haters sway you if you choose this path. Many people will try to shame or guilt you into not following this path with nonsense thinking like "you owe it to society to use money" or "you can't possibly cut out all money usage from your life and, even if you figure it out, you're a hypocrite if you use money in the meantime." Debt is a myth, especially debts to society. Hypocrisy is a shaming term for "in a transition from one state to another"; embrace messaged of hypocrisy as signs to keep going. Keep calm and clown on.

jen20 4y ago
> There's no way I would trade what I'm doing now for money. So what are you doing?
- crawfordcomeaux 4y ago
  For the past 4 years, I've been a full-time stay-at-home parent experimenting heavily on how to nurture a child through anarchism. It is a full-time unpaid gig and I'm loving it. Most parents do not understand how we do what we do because they're afraid to allow kids the freedom and empowerment we allow for. Friends have found it exhausting to hang out with us because their childhood traumas start ringing when they see the kid do things they never would've been allowed to do and, instead of processing their trauma, they suppress their emotions, which takes a lot of energy. And now I'm starting a carnival circuit dedicated to culture hacking in order to help people repair/recover/revolutionize their cultures in order to better meet their needs.
  - crawfordcomeaux 4y ago
    To be clear: I wouldn't quit doing this job for one that pays money. I'd much rather work to make parenting a paying gig, since it's clearly exploited in modern society.
  - nopeYouAreWrong 4y ago
    Everything about this screams "Somebody please call Child Protective Services and get this guy committed" If you start gaining followers....you're starting a cult
    - crawfordcomeaux 4y ago
      What are you reading into this? I'm very curious what specific quotes suggest to you something questionable is going on.
    - askafriend 4y ago
      This is only going to end in disaster and life-long trauma for that child. Poor luck of the draw for that kid.