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I have a girlfriend who believes herself to be on the autism spectrum, and I cannot over years ever recall her admitting that she was wrong or apologizing at an
by rendall 4y ago
I have a girlfriend who believes herself to be on the autism spectrum, and I cannot over years ever recall her admitting that she was wrong or apologizing at any time for anything. We do get along despite that, but I was kind of hoping for insight.
- larve 4y agoThis does sound odd, but if it works for you... My examples are definitely all about the workplace.
- rendall 4y agoShe's pretty great, lack of apologies notwithstanding
- cecilpl2 4y agoWell, that's interesting. My ex-wife also never once admitted she was wrong or genuinely apologized to me for anything. Her brother was diagnosed Asperger's and I strongly suspected both her parents were as well. Sadly I don't have much to share in the way of insight.
- narcraft 4y agoSame for neurotypical girlfriends
- throwaway1777 4y agoHaha, indeed. The wife is never wrong.
- Tronno 4y agoPretty disappointed to see these boomer-style "wife bad" jokes on HN. Have you considered that being comfortable admitting fault is a skill which some people never learned while growing up, regardless of gender? And can you imagine a world where men do the same thing, but you don't gripe about it because you're not in a relationship with them?
- narcraft 4y agoSome jokes are like ogres
- rendall 4y agoOnce upon a time I too was upset when people found things funny that I did not. But, I've come around since then. Not to finding things i don't like funny, but to the idea that humor is complicated. Essential. Necessary. People offset anxiety and tensions with humor, and not laughing leads to problems more often than laughing does. And, tbf, "the wife is never wrong" encodes some wisdom, same as does the saying "Happy wife means happy life" or, from White Men Can't Jump, "Always listen to the woman".
- Tronno 4y agoI'm not sure I follow. What's the wisdom encoded in those statements? In what situations would it apply? I would love to see an example.
- dboreham 4y agoDude, that's _all_ girlfriends ;)
- krageon 4y agoI have many autistic (actually diagnosed) friends and I've heard most of them say they're wrong multiple times. It comes with knowing people for years. If you know someone for years and they've never said they're wrong, that has nothing to do with autism. They're just an asshole.