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Having a family and responsibilities made this infeasible for me. Most apps on my phone are denied notifications, but people can still text/call me.
by andrewljohnson 4y ago
Having a family and responsibilities made this infeasible for me. Most apps on my phone are denied notifications, but people can still text/call me.
- namaria 4y agoI also have family and responsibilities. But I am very careful whom I give unfettered access to my attention.
- copperx 4y agoEverybody who depends on you directly (partner, children, parents, and extended family) should be on you VIP contact list and have direct access to you. I find that reduces my anxiety. I don't get distracted by notifications, or the thought that someone might be dying and trying to reach me.
- ge96 4y agoJust commenting about phone calls I have stranger phone call anxiety and the other thing is spam/scam calls. Which thankfully my phone has been good at flagging/blocking. Regarding notifications I used to have phones that either had LED blinking indicators or sound/beeping ahh, crazy used to just drop what I was doing to check it.
- copperx 4y agoWhat are the odds? A couple of hours after I posted my comment above I got a WhatsApp message saying that my aunt was in the ICU. She died minutes later. This stuff happens.
- andrewljohnson 4y agoThe issue for me is, for example, my wife drops my kid off for a camp and then the camp calls me in an emergency. So I can’t just only take notifications from known callers.
- NRv9tR 4y agoYou can do this. I do. Known numbers only and whitelist school, doctor, etc. If you really wanted to go further you could have a second number via google voice you only give to those places. Maybe even tie notifications on that to your calendar where you put your kids events.
- andrewljohnson 4y agoI just can’t… it might be some counselor’s random cell phone calling me. Plus the kids go to many camps per summer, and many activities during the year, so I’d be constantly updating my phone book even if not for the main issue.
- layer8 4y agoKids survived perfectly fine in the past without their parents being available 24/7.
- happimess 4y agoMany summer camps require that you be available to retrieve your kid if e.g. they start showing Covid symptoms. I'd love to drop them off and forget about it, believe me.
- andrewljohnson 4y ago
- LeonM 4y agoNot sure about iOS, but with Android you can create exceptions for selected contacts in the do-not-disturb mode. I've added my family members to that exception list, and leave the phone on do-not-disturb mode 24/7.
- ska 4y agoThis works well for some people, but not universally as noted elsewhere in the thread. I guess it basically comes down to: how likely is a call from an unknown number to be important for me? It turns out this is wildly different for different lives.
- Popeyes 4y agoIf you have Android. Minimalist is very helpful in blocking app notifications.
- mirekrusin 4y agoIf wife is nice, she can be whitelisted, no?
- jdshaffer 4y agoI have family and responsibilities, too. I've so far survived by allowing ONLY notifications from texts and phone calls. The key is that I'm able to ONLY give my text information and telephone information to family. I know others probably can't do that, but it works great for me.
- patrulek 4y agoHumans lived centuries without instant messaging. Probably nothing wrong happen if you miss a call.