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I do wonder if the act of dating has gotten substantially less fun than it was in the past. At least if you go to a bar/concert/activity you may have fun and m

by lumost 4y ago

I do wonder if the act of dating has gotten substantially less fun than it was in the past. At least if you go to a bar/concert/activity you may have fun and make plutonic friends, messaging random people on a dating site seems much more depressing.

CoastalCoder 4y ago
> plutonic friends Did you mean "Platonic friends"? Although it sounds kinda nice to have Plutonic friends as well, since they'd have yachts and what not.
- benj111 4y ago
  Surely plutonic friends would have superpowers and not be the rich tech heavy kind of superhero???
- oldsecondhand 4y ago
  If you marry a plutonic friend, you can start a nuclear family unit.
  - layer8 4y ago
    I was thinking that you’d reach new horizons.
- irrational 4y ago
  Oh, I thought it meant friends from the planet Pluto.
- spyder 4y ago
  It's a very long distance friend who lives as far as Pluto :-)
dpz 4y ago
It is very un fun, one of the big things I've noticed is online dating is very different experience for men and women. Both have their negatives and positives, but it create a weird dynamic of how people date.
- johnebgd 4y ago
  Life in general is very different for people with different genders. Especially if they are considered conventionally attractive.
- R0b0t1 4y ago
  I think it is more than fair to just say men have it worse in regards to online dating.
  - Kye 4y ago
    I can't imagine being bombarded with messages from horny and desperate men is a great time.
    - guerrilla 4y ago
      You seriously can't imagine being bombarded with messages from horny and desperate women is a great time? That having hundreds if not thousands to choose from is a grea time?
      - R0b0t1 4y ago
        It's better than nothing? And from what I can tell there is usually a handful of good dates in the massive pile, and it's not too hard to find them. But then (as a woman) you could just not bother and go to a bar.
      - Kye 4y ago
        That sounds dreadful.
        guerrilla 4y ago
        I suspect extremely few straight men would agree with you.
        dpz 4y ago
threeseed 4y ago
> I do wonder if the act of dating has gotten substantially less fun than it was in the past I wonder if people are simply more selective about what they want in a partner. Which sort of lines up with the polarisation we see in other aspects of society. And so they go into dating with much higher expectations and less open-mindedness.
- cupofpython 4y ago
  possibly related. When you are forced to look at someones data sheet to decide on them rather than see them in public being themselves - it seems natural to get sucked into coming up with check-lists on a bunch of qualities you otherwise would not have actually cared about as a means of simplifying your choosing process

by lumost 4y ago

CoastalCoder 4y ago

> plutonic friends Did you mean "Platonic friends"? Although it sounds kinda nice to have Plutonic friends as well, since they'd have yachts and what not.

benj111 4y ago
Surely plutonic friends would have superpowers and not be the rich tech heavy kind of superhero???
oldsecondhand 4y ago
If you marry a plutonic friend, you can start a nuclear family unit.
- layer8 4y ago
  I was thinking that you’d reach new horizons.
irrational 4y ago
Oh, I thought it meant friends from the planet Pluto.
spyder 4y ago
It's a very long distance friend who lives as far as Pluto :-)

dpz 4y ago

It is very un fun, one of the big things I've noticed is online dating is very different experience for men and women. Both have their negatives and positives, but it create a weird dynamic of how people date.

johnebgd 4y ago
Life in general is very different for people with different genders. Especially if they are considered conventionally attractive.
R0b0t1 4y ago
I think it is more than fair to just say men have it worse in regards to online dating.
- Kye 4y ago
  I can't imagine being bombarded with messages from horny and desperate men is a great time.
  - guerrilla 4y ago
    You seriously can't imagine being bombarded with messages from horny and desperate women is a great time? That having hundreds if not thousands to choose from is a grea time?
    - R0b0t1 4y ago
      It's better than nothing? And from what I can tell there is usually a handful of good dates in the massive pile, and it's not too hard to find them. But then (as a woman) you could just not bother and go to a bar.
    - Kye 4y ago
      That sounds dreadful.
      - guerrilla 4y ago
        I suspect extremely few straight men would agree with you.
        dpz 4y ago

threeseed 4y ago

> I do wonder if the act of dating has gotten substantially less fun than it was in the past I wonder if people are simply more selective about what they want in a partner. Which sort of lines up with the polarisation we see in other aspects of society. And so they go into dating with much higher expectations and less open-mindedness.

cupofpython 4y ago
possibly related. When you are forced to look at someones data sheet to decide on them rather than see them in public being themselves - it seems natural to get sucked into coming up with check-lists on a bunch of qualities you otherwise would not have actually cared about as a means of simplifying your choosing process