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As someone with a lot of experience with this, the only real answer is therapy. Don’t try to shortcut it with “pop” remedies, see a therapist that unpublished c

by jm20 4y ago

As someone with a lot of experience with this, the only real answer is therapy. Don’t try to shortcut it with “pop” remedies, see a therapist that unpublished connect with. While there’s a lot of commonalities, everyone’s traumas are different and need a custom tailored approach. A good therapist will do that for you.

ctack 4y ago
I strongly agree with this comment. Based on 20 years of searching and self help patches. If I knew and had the cash I’d have gone for EMDR therapy at the first viable moment after childhood.
annyeonghada 4y ago
Therapy may be an answer for some people, in certain occasions. I did years of therapy with five different therpist: single, group, meditating, CBT and so on and on... To me it was extremely easy to see what the therapist wanted me to say and say it. Sometimes I had the impression that I had to protect the therapist from the reality that some people have really, really, really shitty lives behind thei control and their thinking is not a cognitive distortion: it's the rational response to a disastrous situation.
- DiggyJohnson 4y ago
  Well said. This is a very difficult point to make in the current zeitgeist, but I hope to see it return to a reasonable perspective that most people can understand.
- krageon 4y ago
  > To me it was extremely easy to see what the therapist wanted me to say and say it. This is easy with everyone, but seeing as you're the one paying for them to listen it seems a little weird to meta therapy like this. If you feel that need, just don't go. > Sometimes I had the impression that I had to protect the therapist from the reality that some people have really, really, really shitty lives behind thei control and their thinking is not a cognitive distortion: it's the rational response to a disastrous situation. Any therapist will explain to you that your environment and your behaviour (if they are as connected as you say) have to change together: The former because it is almost impossible to change yourself in an identical context, the latter because otherwise you will create the same environment in a new place. From what you said, you had both bad therapists and did not want to participate in therapy. It's no wonder it doesn't work in that case, every good therapist will tell you this.

by jm20 4y ago

ctack 4y ago

I strongly agree with this comment. Based on 20 years of searching and self help patches. If I knew and had the cash I’d have gone for EMDR therapy at the first viable moment after childhood.

annyeonghada 4y ago

Therapy may be an answer for some people, in certain occasions. I did years of therapy with five different therpist: single, group, meditating, CBT and so on and on... To me it was extremely easy to see what the therapist wanted me to say and say it. Sometimes I had the impression that I had to protect the therapist from the reality that some people have really, really, really shitty lives behind thei control and their thinking is not a cognitive distortion: it's the rational response to a disastrous situation.

DiggyJohnson 4y ago
Well said. This is a very difficult point to make in the current zeitgeist, but I hope to see it return to a reasonable perspective that most people can understand.
krageon 4y ago
> To me it was extremely easy to see what the therapist wanted me to say and say it. This is easy with everyone, but seeing as you're the one paying for them to listen it seems a little weird to meta therapy like this. If you feel that need, just don't go. > Sometimes I had the impression that I had to protect the therapist from the reality that some people have really, really, really shitty lives behind thei control and their thinking is not a cognitive distortion: it's the rational response to a disastrous situation. Any therapist will explain to you that your environment and your behaviour (if they are as connected as you say) have to change together: The former because it is almost impossible to change yourself in an identical context, the latter because otherwise you will create the same environment in a new place. From what you said, you had both bad therapists and did not want to participate in therapy. It's no wonder it doesn't work in that case, every good therapist will tell you this.