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If we manage to have a kid, long walks everyday are planned :) More movement, less screen time is always good for health, parents' and kids' alike. Also, getti

If we manage to have a kid, long walks everyday are planned :) More movement, less screen time is always good for health, parents' and kids' alike. Also, getting used to all sorts of weather improves the immune system. By spending too much time indoors we are becoming glasshouse flowers.

lotsofpulp 4y ago
Everyone thinks this, until they pop out a second one and there is no time or energy to do anything outside work, cook, clean, and all the baby/toddler tasks.
- Aeolun 4y ago
  Huh? Walks outside with the toddler are the best. Stick him in either the stroller or bike seat and it’s the only time they sit still. Guess it’s a bit hard to combine with a baby <6 months, but eventually they should both fit.
  - lotsofpulp 4y ago
    It is rough if both parents are working. Lining up all the schedules and breastfeeding and whatnot is harder than it sounds, especially in northern (and southern) areas with less daylight hours. Just cooking and feeding and cleaning up after a picky toddler and baby learning how to eat can kill an evening. And then at least one is bound to be sick every other week if they are in day care…the list goes on for why plans have a low tendency to work out. See also mattlondon’s comment.
    - throwawayarnty 4y ago
      It has been pretty easy on our end. We live walking distance to work and daycare. so it’s no problem to even have both of us pick the kids up, walk home to eat lunch, walk kids back to daycare, and go back to work.
      - Aeolun 4y ago
        You can pick your kids up in the middle of the day and then bring them back after? I can pick them up any time I want, but after that they have to stay home :P
        throwawayarnty 4y ago
        In some countries, eg France, it’s common for kids to go home for lunch and then come back.
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mattlondon 4y ago
Good luck with the plan :) Under the age of about 1 to 1.5 then you get to call the shots of what happens when. Walk as mu h as you like. After that age, the kids start to get their own opinions and won't always just do what you want them to do. You may want to go for a long walk, but the kid wants to do something else. They'll spend 95% of the time trying to escape the buggy/stroller or trying to run off or just sit on the floor if they're walking. At that age we've found that it is best to not have any plans for things you need to do - e.g. don't plan to "walk to the store", because it might take you 25 minutes to go about 200 meters because you need to stop to look at a traffic light or a store front or a car that is red or whatever - i.e. you'll never get to the store without a fight. That said, they usually love the playground though so swings and slides and stuff can replace being a docile lump that you cart around.
- simonh 4y ago
  It very much depends on the relationship you have with your kids. Respect and trust are really important. However beyond that IMHO frankly it's critical safety imperative that children do what their parents tell them when it matters. If you're in the street near traffic a child disregarding parental instructions is a life and death issue. There are other safety critical situations too. This is why I feel it's vital that children and parents have a relationship of trust and respect, in both directions, that allows for that. It's not easy, I know.
  - ayewo 4y ago
    With respect to building respect and trust with young kids, this video might be useful https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kHvm1J9HVLo https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kHvm1J9HVLo
    - TedDoesntTalk 4y ago
      Dr. Paul Jenkins is great!
  - mattlondon 4y ago
    Your kids can trust and respect you, but they still get curious and still get bored. They won't always want to do what you want them to do, especially when they are toddlers. You need to let kids be kids (while being safe which I obviously agree with)
chronci2901 4y ago
> By spending too much time indoors we are becoming glasshouse flowers. Efficiency vs anti-fragility. Pick one, but not both.
- knob 4y ago
  I love that you used anti-fragility correctly! =)

lotsofpulp 4y ago

Everyone thinks this, until they pop out a second one and there is no time or energy to do anything outside work, cook, clean, and all the baby/toddler tasks.

Aeolun 4y ago
Huh? Walks outside with the toddler are the best. Stick him in either the stroller or bike seat and it’s the only time they sit still. Guess it’s a bit hard to combine with a baby <6 months, but eventually they should both fit.
- lotsofpulp 4y ago
  It is rough if both parents are working. Lining up all the schedules and breastfeeding and whatnot is harder than it sounds, especially in northern (and southern) areas with less daylight hours. Just cooking and feeding and cleaning up after a picky toddler and baby learning how to eat can kill an evening. And then at least one is bound to be sick every other week if they are in day care…the list goes on for why plans have a low tendency to work out. See also mattlondon’s comment.
  - throwawayarnty 4y ago
    It has been pretty easy on our end. We live walking distance to work and daycare. so it’s no problem to even have both of us pick the kids up, walk home to eat lunch, walk kids back to daycare, and go back to work.
    - Aeolun 4y ago
      You can pick your kids up in the middle of the day and then bring them back after? I can pick them up any time I want, but after that they have to stay home :P
      - throwawayarnty 4y ago
        In some countries, eg France, it’s common for kids to go home for lunch and then come back.
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mattlondon 4y ago

Good luck with the plan :) Under the age of about 1 to 1.5 then you get to call the shots of what happens when. Walk as mu h as you like. After that age, the kids start to get their own opinions and won't always just do what you want them to do. You may want to go for a long walk, but the kid wants to do something else. They'll spend 95% of the time trying to escape the buggy/stroller or trying to run off or just sit on the floor if they're walking. At that age we've found that it is best to not have any plans for things you need to do - e.g. don't plan to "walk to the store", because it might take you 25 minutes to go about 200 meters because you need to stop to look at a traffic light or a store front or a car that is red or whatever - i.e. you'll never get to the store without a fight. That said, they usually love the playground though so swings and slides and stuff can replace being a docile lump that you cart around.

simonh 4y ago
It very much depends on the relationship you have with your kids. Respect and trust are really important. However beyond that IMHO frankly it's critical safety imperative that children do what their parents tell them when it matters. If you're in the street near traffic a child disregarding parental instructions is a life and death issue. There are other safety critical situations too. This is why I feel it's vital that children and parents have a relationship of trust and respect, in both directions, that allows for that. It's not easy, I know.
- ayewo 4y ago
  With respect to building respect and trust with young kids, this video might be useful https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kHvm1J9HVLo https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kHvm1J9HVLo
  - TedDoesntTalk 4y ago
    Dr. Paul Jenkins is great!
- mattlondon 4y ago
  Your kids can trust and respect you, but they still get curious and still get bored. They won't always want to do what you want them to do, especially when they are toddlers. You need to let kids be kids (while being safe which I obviously agree with)

chronci2901 4y ago

> By spending too much time indoors we are becoming glasshouse flowers. Efficiency vs anti-fragility. Pick one, but not both.

knob 4y ago
I love that you used anti-fragility correctly! =)