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I generally apply a similar test when dating - if the person is a huge asshole to the service staff then it generally is not going anywhere
by Melatonic 5y ago
I generally apply a similar test when dating - if the person is a huge asshole to the service staff then it generally is not going anywhere
- geocrasher 5y agoGiant red flag, indeed.
- bee_rider 5y agoSorry, unless you tell them you are testing their dateablilty you have to ignore any behavior on their part.
- DFHippie 5y agoThis needs a "/s".
- bee_rider 5y agoSarcasm is a rhetorical trust-fall, I refuse to cheapen it by adding the /s.
- SilasX 5y agoThen you refuse to be a helpful contributor to discussions. Life is littered with cases where people thought they understood each other but didn’t. If there’s a chance you’ll be misinterpreted, you’re not communicating well and need to take steps to correct it, just out of general empathy for those who don’t have the exact same knowledge as you.
- bee_rider 5y agoIn conversations where optimizing the productivity of the discussion is a priority, I would not use sarcasm.
- SilasX 5y agoAnd you don't see HN as that kind of place?
- bee_rider 5y agoThis site has lots of good technical discussions, but it is not a place I'd go to pick up dating tips.
- SilasX 5y agoI think the question was about productivity of discussion.
- bee_rider 5y agoSome discussions are serious and follow the core competency of the site (technical ones for example). For these discussions, it is best to avoid sarcasm and non-obvious forms of communication. Some discussions are not serious, and are destined not to be really productive anyway. Dating advice falls into that category. Is ignoring context like this your idea of being a "helpful contributor to discussions?" Because I don't see who's being helped by this.
- SilasX 5y ago>Some discussions are not serious, and are destined not to be really productive anyway. Dating advice falls into that category. Then you could have said as much from the beginning. >Is ignoring context like this your idea of being a "helpful contributor to discussions?" Because I don't see who's being helped by this. You communicated poorly, in being (almost deliberately) unaware of what context others might lack. That error followed a pattern that others often make. I pointed out why it is an error so that you, and those others, can avoid it. And then, in doing so, I got you to reveal context your original comment needed. Yes, I absolutely feel like I contributed here, and that you made the forum just a little bit worse with your original reply and contempt for discussion quality. Do you see why I might think that?
- kbelder 5y agoYou forgot your /s.
- SilasX 5y agobee_rider is smart enough to figure these things out.
- testware 5y agoSorry, you didn't tell me it was sarcasm so I can't be blamed for believing it.
- bee_rider 5y agothis needs a "/s".