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Hot take: men don’t want promiscuous women as long-term partners, fundamentally people desire long-term partners, and the commoditization of sex contributes to
by enw 4y ago
Hot take: men don’t want promiscuous women as long-term partners, fundamentally people desire long-term partners, and the commoditization of sex contributes to weak relationships and broken families.
- Supermancho 4y ago> men don’t want promiscuous women as long-term partners Men don't think in those terms. Promiscuous means quicker (and easier) to filter. > fundamentally people desire long-term partners Why? Because 2 people are stronger than one and as you get older, you start to be painfully aware of that. If you can find a best friend who shares your short term goals, long term goals, life standards (like cleanliness, similar views on drug use, gambling, etc) AND is also interested in you sexually, you probably have a good long term partner.
- jdrc 4y agoHotter take: men don't want long-term partners period, monogamy is social conditioning because it leads to stable and more successful settlements.
- tgv 4y agoThen you define "want" in a very narrow sense, and there definitely is no evidence to show that it's "social condtioniting", nor that it's a desire shared by (nearly) all men.
- fxtentacle 4y agomonogamy != long-term partnership Genghis Khan had 6 long-term wives. Most likely, the women were forced to be monogamous, while he obviously wasn't.
- numerik_meister 4y agoI guess I'm a martian then.
- KronisLV 4y agoWouldn't that mean that "mate guarding" behaviors would have to be assumed to be wholly due to social conditioning? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mate_guarding_in_humans https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mate_guarding_in_humans Don't some behaviors like that also happen amongst other mammals or other animals in general?
- hhjinks 4y agoIf we reframe this into societal terms, so that this doesn't get dragged into a "not all men want that" argument, why is it that most modern societies had/has rigid, monogamous family units? There are stereotypes for both promiscuous men and women, and clearly there's some degree of promiscuity in both genders. But the (vast?) majority of societies also adopted monogamous family units for most social classes. If men and women are promiscuous by nature, which forces led to the family unit in modern societies? Or perhaps that's just an illusion? How common was it to have a paramour anyway?
- jdrc 4y agoobviously nonmonogamous communities did not survive so what we see may be survivor bias. Nowadays however it IS becoming possible for nonmonogamous socieites to survive due to our superior technology. Hopefully there will be better studies out there than my office-chair evopsych.
- ZephyrBlu 4y ago1) Societal stability 2) Most men are not capable of being promiscuous, even if they want to be
- solenoidalslide 4y agoI think you meant to say that most men are not capable of polygamy? I would very much think that most men are capable of promiscuity.
- ZephyrBlu 4y agoBy capable I mean able to execute. Most men struggle to find a single partner to be monogamous with, let alone multiple partners.
- solenoidalslide 4y agoWhy would that be the goal? Men who have a partner still have the option to pursue sex outside of a relationship. Many simply pay for that type of sexual relationship with no "struggles" you speak of.
- bell-cot 4y agoAh... On the "men...want..." part, are you interested in what actual individual human men really want? Or just in a very simplistic, macho stereotype - which few men are likely to voice disagreement with, when it is repeatedly and forcefully voiced, in the context of a society where men often face harsh punishments (social and/or physical) for having non-conformist feeling on subjects like sex. And generally worse if they actually try to voice those feelings.
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