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Lying about your height is actually an acceptable thing to do if it is to get over people's prejudices. In all honesty a good chunk of the people you encountere

Lying about your height is actually an acceptable thing to do if it is to get over people's prejudices. In all honesty a good chunk of the people you encountered probably wrote you off prematurely anyways. But online dating and Tinder isn't great when you're trying to look past superficial qualities (your face, your height, your basic physical characteristics) so it's setting you up for failure, not to mention the way these apps are setup makes it really low effort for men to and woman to each have unrealistic expectations, and setup the vast majority for failure. But if you're still looking for things to try, I would recommend you get some activities (sports, hobbies) and meet people outside of a purely dating context. People's guards will be down and they'll be evaluating you on your other qualities rather than height in these contexts, and the extra time you spend with them is exactly what you need for them to overcome their prejudices.

Rebelgecko 5y ago
Thought experiment: Can you apply the same process to other characteristics? For example, is it ok to lie about your race to improve your chances with racists? Even if that works, should you?
- chrischen 5y ago
  Yea, if you think they'll forgive you for lying. If you're asking if it's worthwhile to court a racist then that depends on the other person. Obviously if you can turn them from a racist to not a racist then it's a worthwhile endeavor.
- ajwfew 5y ago
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- nradov 5y ago
  Well since race is an arbitrary social construct with no consistent, objective definition then anyone can choose any racial identity they like without it being a lie. But when I was in the dating market I wouldn't have been willing to date a racist anyway, so the question is moot.
  - samatman 4y ago
    No only is that first sentence logically groundless, in that the consequent doesn't follow from the proposition, it is also dangerously untrue, please don't go around pretending to be of a racial identity you are in fact not a member of people really don't like it.
    - nradov 4y ago
      How is it logically groundless? Where is the logic?
  - jfk13 4y ago
    > anyone can choose any racial identity they like How did that go for Rachel Dolezal?
ajwfew 5y ago

Rebelgecko 5y ago

Thought experiment: Can you apply the same process to other characteristics? For example, is it ok to lie about your race to improve your chances with racists? Even if that works, should you?

chrischen 5y ago
Yea, if you think they'll forgive you for lying. If you're asking if it's worthwhile to court a racist then that depends on the other person. Obviously if you can turn them from a racist to not a racist then it's a worthwhile endeavor.
ajwfew 5y ago
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nradov 5y ago
Well since race is an arbitrary social construct with no consistent, objective definition then anyone can choose any racial identity they like without it being a lie. But when I was in the dating market I wouldn't have been willing to date a racist anyway, so the question is moot.
- samatman 4y ago
  No only is that first sentence logically groundless, in that the consequent doesn't follow from the proposition, it is also dangerously untrue, please don't go around pretending to be of a racial identity you are in fact not a member of people really don't like it.
  - nradov 4y ago
    How is it logically groundless? Where is the logic?
- jfk13 4y ago
  > anyone can choose any racial identity they like How did that go for Rachel Dolezal?

ajwfew 5y ago