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"I'm the kind of weird pacifistic person who literally sat down at school and took the beating from the bullies" And sometimes, a lot of times, that's really t
by gcheong 4y ago
"I'm the kind of weird pacifistic person who literally sat down at school and took the beating from the bullies"
And sometimes, a lot of times, that's really the best option. People are under the impression, coded in our mythology and promoted by Hollywood, that if you defeat the bully your problem is over when in reality it often just escalates. You didn't fail because you weren't willing to defend yourself, the system which allowed such behavior to reach that point failed you.
- sillysaurusx 4y agoBut then what's the option? At least you can maintain your dignity by defending yourself, even if it's supposedly not the best option.
- mensetmanusman 4y agoThe other option is mutually assured destruction. Probably works at the micro-scale as well.
- goldorak 4y agoWe have proof of the contrary. There is quite a lot of reports about ppl killing their partners (children, family) when abandoned and then committing suicide. I'm not saying that you should not stand your ground, I'm just saying that your are making dangerous assumptions, some ppl can be irrational or just overwhelmed with emotions. With micro-scale MAD 2 ppl die, with a large scale one you just need 1 person go crazy and it's over. TBH I'd never believe that the real reason for avoiding ww3 was MAD.
- imtringued 4y agoThe best option is to get the hell away from the assholes. Every time I get angry at some idiot on the road I calm myself down by thinking "I should get the hell away from this guy" instead of escalating it further like my mother who used to get in all sorts of pointless trouble afterwards.
- oneoff786 4y agoThat’s generally very false. You don’t need to beat the bully. You just need to establish that you will respond violently. A credible threat of violence is a strong deterrent.