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When I crossed into my forties a couple of friends were insistent that I do "a big thing" of clay pigeon shooting, go karting, overnighting in a rented a cottag
by teh_klev 4y ago
When I crossed into my forties a couple of friends were insistent that I do "a big thing" of clay pigeon shooting, go karting, overnighting in a rented a cottage, get all the guys together etc etc.
I point blank refused, I was going through a serious bout of panic/anxiety attacks at the time, and this was the last thing I needed. All I wanted was a few quiet drinks and a sit-in curry with some local pals. The amount of sulking that went on for weeks afterwards was quite something to behold.
- zh3 4y agoI know that feeling; people projecting what they like onto you, assuming therefore you will like it too and then getting upset when you don't. It's horrible because it feels like it's your problem - but it's really not.
- katbyte 4y agoIt’s weird too, because if they wanted to do all that why not just make that a separate plan/trip at a later date? There’s no reason to force it on someone when your free to just go do it as a group later
- ILMostro7 4y agoEasier to justify. Maybe even a little test or shooting off steam for their own life.
- imtringued 4y agoIt's their problem because there is absolutely nothing wrong with just asking. People want to surprise other people with nice gifts while simultaneously having no idea whether the recipient will want it.
- listenallyall 4y ago
- schwammy 4y agoWhat a rude and unhelpful comment. If “stop feeling sorry for yourself, just go outside and do things” was actually good advice no one would have mental health problems.
- listenallyall 4y ago
- progman32 4y agoFalse dichotomy.
- listenallyall 4y agoHow?