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> I found that having experiences with coworkers from outside of a work settings would significantly strengthen the relationship with those coworkers. Why can
by nowherebeen 5y ago
> I found that having experiences with coworkers from outside of a work settings would significantly strengthen the relationship with those coworkers.
Why can’t work just be work? Do you really want to spent time with your coworkers outside of work? Some of us have families to care for. And some of us have actual friends that we like to hangout with. Coworkers aren’t my buddies or family. We are a team to get things done for a price.
- iamstupidsimple 4y agoI think it's a generational thing. As a young person, work is basically the default way to meet people after moving to a large city. I have real friends outside work now but they all started as colleagues or friends of colleagues. I'd also prefer to work with people I can trust over anonymous colleagues any day. I'm not saying it's the only way (it's probably not good or healthy) but this sentiment is super common among my peers. When we're older I suspect that will change.
- imiric 4y agoI agree. For me it's not required to know someone personally to be professional, establish trust, and have a great working relationship. If a friendship arises naturally, then great, but I also dislike the forced team building events (or after hour hangouts) companies think are essential for a team to work well together. And yet I've learned that not everyone is like this, especially nowadays with remote work growing in popularity. Some people do feel that a personal connection helps in a professional setting. So I tend to begrudgingly accept this and make an effort to do this for the team.
- ryathal 4y agoyou spend about 50% of waking hours with co-workers, it doesn't make sense to me that you would want to ignore them. The majority of my friends are former/current co-workers.
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- nowherebeen 4y agoIf I am spending 50% of my waking hours with them, how exactly am I ignoring them? You can still make friends at work without having to hang out after work. I shouldn't be obliged to spent 75% of my waking hours with them. And how do you know they don't want the same thing? I know tons of people that would rather spent time with their loved ones than their coworkers. You might want to rethink your definition of ignore, because it sounds very much like unhealthy peer pressure.
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- shrimp_emoji 4y ago>Some of us have families to care for. And some of us have actual friends that we like to hangout with. ???
- rockbruno 4y agoI'm happy this is the case for you, but this is not everyone's reality. If you have no friends and family post-college, socializing during work is the only thing preventing you from going into deep depression. Very common example of how this can happen: Moving to another country for work.
- lupire 4y agoAnd those souls absolutely should congregate at work while they try to plant roots. But don't force the whole company to do it.
- rockbruno 4y agoI agree with you. I was just adding that people who are strongly against non-remote work should at least be aware that this can literally kill people, meaning that companies should not yolo the decision of how it should operate in this regard.
- nowherebeen 4y agoI am not strongly against non-remote work. I am strongly against having to hang out with your coworkers after work. I think those two are different things. We already spent enough time at work, I should be allowed my own free time to relax without feeling the peer pressure to be part of the team outside work hours.