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> So what went wrong? My gut feeling is that I am boring. A lot of pain seems to come from a poor vocabulary about feelings. What is boring? It's a weak and fl

> So what went wrong? My gut feeling is that I am boring. A lot of pain seems to come from a poor vocabulary about feelings. What is boring? It's a weak and flattened word like the feelings it's used about. Do you mean avolition, acedia, irascibility, dissatisfaction, insensibility, repression, discouragement, ambivalence, anxiety? The Psychology of the Emotions by Neal Burton is a fair place to continue the introspective journey you've started [1]. > I lost my creativity and the sense of wonder I used to have in childhood. I am no longer curious because I am settled for the world as it is. I accept things the way they are instead of imagining how they could be. Comfortably Numb. There's a dose of it going around. Don't worry it's an acute condition. All progress depends upon the unreasonable man. You need to stop being reasonable. Take a good look at the world, and notice there's still plenty to be really, healthily angry about, and so much to be joyously in love with. Just don't give in to ambivalence or settle for the illusion of comfort and safety life seems to be showing you. Take a risk on it. [1] https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/hide-and-seek/201601/what-are-basic-emotions https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/hide-and-seek/201601...

hoseja 5y ago
And then you learn about survivorship bias.
- Sinidir 5y ago
  Bingo!
chii 5y ago
> All progress depends upon the unreasonable man. You need to stop being reasonable and yet there's an unreasonable man invading another country right now. I dont think progress depends on the unreasonable man. It depends on the reasonable man who would put in the sweat and blood, but might be inspired or paid by the unreasonable man.
- rhn_mk1 5y ago
  That's a mutual dependence then. It's still dependent on the unreasonable man. I look at this in terms of variance: there are few ways to be reasonable, but many to be unreasonable. Many of the unreasonable ones lead nowhere, but a few lead to progress. That's similar to the concept of antifragility.
- arvinsim 5y ago
  >It depends on the reasonable man who would put in the sweat and blood, but might be inspired or paid by the unreasonable man. It's just the same thing as parent poster said, just with extra steps.
- d1sxeyes 5y ago
  There's an important difference between: > All progress depends upon the unreasonable man and > All actions by unreasonable men are progress If all wibbles are wobbles it is not necessarily true that all wobbles are wibbles.
- ramblerman 5y ago
  Both things can be true > progress depends on the unreasonable man and > unreasonable men start wars But honestly it feels like such a useless nitpick. OP is talking about a useful mind-hack to increase your personal productivity and meaning, and you are applying it to how we should assess the morality of global leaders.
- nonrandomstring 5y ago
  > an unreasonable man invading another country right now. I'd be more cautious equating reason with peace. Wars are as often the conclusion of pure reason. Strategic advantage plus opportunity, plus a little too much game-theory can be the perfect ingredients for belligerence.
- shrikant 5y ago
  Ah yes, but no true unreasonable man puts sugar on his porridge. (Ironically, the reference for this is an article titled "No true Scotsman starts a war" https://web.archive.org/web/20190105005853/http://www.atimes.com/atimes/Middle_East/HA31Ak01.html https://web.archive.org/web/20190105005853/http://www.atimes...)
renarl 5y ago
I had a similar problem with emotions: specifically, limited emotional vocabulary and the inability to distinguish what I’m feeling. To help myself, I partnered with an emotion coach and created an app to expand my emotional vocabulary and come into contact with what I’m feeling. https://apps.apple.com/app/emote/id1609038427 https://apps.apple.com/app/emote/id1609038427
MrWiffles 5y ago
For anyone wondering what this person means when he says: > All progress depends upon the unreasonable man. Let me share with you one of my all time favorite quotes, from George Bernard Shaw[1]: >“The reasonable man adapts himself to the world: the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore all progress depends on the unreasonable man.” While Shaw himself was a controversial figure even in his own time (roughly a century ago), and would be abhorred by today's standards for many reasons, this particular item, standing alone, remains a particular gem of wisdom. For a historical example we're all quite familiar with in this industry, think "Steve Jobs". He adapted the world to his vision through innovation and commerce, forcing the creation of entire industries - at least twice over! - as a result. Thanks to him being "unreasonable", the personal computer market emerged which spawned our entire industry. Then with the release of the iPhone, the smartphone market came into existence along with Android and for a time, Windows Phone (RIP). I strongly disagree with several of Shaw's points of view, but this particular gem has always been a favorite of mine in spite of that. I find it particularly inspiring. [1]: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/George_Bernard_Shaw https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/George_Bernard_Shaw
- idleproc 5y ago
  I would like to point out that this quote comes from Shaw's play 'Man and Superman'. Specifically, from an appendix to the play 'Maxims for Revolutionists'[1], written by the character John Tanner. Have a read through some of the other maxims and make your own mind up as to the author's viewpoint. [1] https://en.wikisource.org/wiki/Man_and_Superman/Maxims_for_Revolutionists#REASON https://en.wikisource.org/wiki/Man_and_Superman/Maxims_for_R...

hoseja 5y ago

And then you learn about survivorship bias.

Sinidir 5y ago
Bingo!

chii 5y ago

> All progress depends upon the unreasonable man. You need to stop being reasonable and yet there's an unreasonable man invading another country right now. I dont think progress depends on the unreasonable man. It depends on the reasonable man who would put in the sweat and blood, but might be inspired or paid by the unreasonable man.

rhn_mk1 5y ago
That's a mutual dependence then. It's still dependent on the unreasonable man. I look at this in terms of variance: there are few ways to be reasonable, but many to be unreasonable. Many of the unreasonable ones lead nowhere, but a few lead to progress. That's similar to the concept of antifragility.
arvinsim 5y ago
>It depends on the reasonable man who would put in the sweat and blood, but might be inspired or paid by the unreasonable man. It's just the same thing as parent poster said, just with extra steps.
d1sxeyes 5y ago
There's an important difference between: > All progress depends upon the unreasonable man and > All actions by unreasonable men are progress If all wibbles are wobbles it is not necessarily true that all wobbles are wibbles.
ramblerman 5y ago
Both things can be true > progress depends on the unreasonable man and > unreasonable men start wars But honestly it feels like such a useless nitpick. OP is talking about a useful mind-hack to increase your personal productivity and meaning, and you are applying it to how we should assess the morality of global leaders.
nonrandomstring 5y ago
> an unreasonable man invading another country right now. I'd be more cautious equating reason with peace. Wars are as often the conclusion of pure reason. Strategic advantage plus opportunity, plus a little too much game-theory can be the perfect ingredients for belligerence.
shrikant 5y ago
Ah yes, but no true unreasonable man puts sugar on his porridge. (Ironically, the reference for this is an article titled "No true Scotsman starts a war" https://web.archive.org/web/20190105005853/http://www.atimes.com/atimes/Middle_East/HA31Ak01.html https://web.archive.org/web/20190105005853/http://www.atimes...)

renarl 5y ago

I had a similar problem with emotions: specifically, limited emotional vocabulary and the inability to distinguish what I’m feeling. To help myself, I partnered with an emotion coach and created an app to expand my emotional vocabulary and come into contact with what I’m feeling. https://apps.apple.com/app/emote/id1609038427 https://apps.apple.com/app/emote/id1609038427

MrWiffles 5y ago

For anyone wondering what this person means when he says: > All progress depends upon the unreasonable man. Let me share with you one of my all time favorite quotes, from George Bernard Shaw[1]: >“The reasonable man adapts himself to the world: the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore all progress depends on the unreasonable man.” While Shaw himself was a controversial figure even in his own time (roughly a century ago), and would be abhorred by today's standards for many reasons, this particular item, standing alone, remains a particular gem of wisdom. For a historical example we're all quite familiar with in this industry, think "Steve Jobs". He adapted the world to his vision through innovation and commerce, forcing the creation of entire industries - at least twice over! - as a result. Thanks to him being "unreasonable", the personal computer market emerged which spawned our entire industry. Then with the release of the iPhone, the smartphone market came into existence along with Android and for a time, Windows Phone (RIP). I strongly disagree with several of Shaw's points of view, but this particular gem has always been a favorite of mine in spite of that. I find it particularly inspiring. [1]: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/George_Bernard_Shaw https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/George_Bernard_Shaw

idleproc 5y ago
I would like to point out that this quote comes from Shaw's play 'Man and Superman'. Specifically, from an appendix to the play 'Maxims for Revolutionists'[1], written by the character John Tanner. Have a read through some of the other maxims and make your own mind up as to the author's viewpoint. [1] https://en.wikisource.org/wiki/Man_and_Superman/Maxims_for_Revolutionists#REASON https://en.wikisource.org/wiki/Man_and_Superman/Maxims_for_R...