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The things people romanticize, especially when it comes to nyc. Nobody wants the stairs blocked in a subway. It ruins everyone's day. A mother with a stroller i

by qiskit 5y ago

The things people romanticize, especially when it comes to nyc. Nobody wants the stairs blocked in a subway. It ruins everyone's day. A mother with a stroller is a potential hazard on the stairs and it takes almost no effort or time to help her up or down the stairs. And it's a nice thing to do. A win win situation. When you have millions of residents and even more tourists moving about the city every day, you need to be practical. It's why people wait by the side of the doors to let the passengers off the train first before getting on. It's why people stand on the right side of escalators and let the people in a hurry walk on the left. You built up someone helping to carry a stroller up some stairs into a hollywood production.

russelldjimmy 5y ago
I am sorry to hear that you have a need to see stories where the helper is also a beneficiary as being romanticised and not “real”. In my opinion, the acts being “self-serving” doesn’t stop them from being kind. Kindness is enlightened self-interest. Everyone wins. How wonderful. Why does the helper have to “lose” for this retelling to be romanticised? - I sincerely hope this does not come off as condescending, and if it does, I am sorry. I hope you are having a good day. Cheers.
- qiskit 5y ago
  > I am sorry to hear that you have a need to see stories where the helper is also a beneficiary as being romanticised and not “real”. You misunderstood my point. My point isn't about selfish altruism - which I noted was a "nice thing to do". Something I've done personally myself - strollers, luggages and even shopping bags. My point was about the way he wrote the story "...Not a word exchanged, not even a thanks, they just went their separate ways. It was so smooth, almost choreographed, I don't believe the woman even broke stride.". Something an ordinary person did that didn't take much effort or time, that happens every day in nyc, he "hollywoodized". That's my point. > I sincerely hope this does not come off as condescending, and if it does, I am sorry. I hope you are having a good day. Cheers. No worries. I don't get offended or triggered by silly social media comments like many people do. And even if you were condescending, that's your right. No need to apologize for it. My advice is to reread a comment and try to understand it rather than getting emotionally caught up by it. Nothing sadder than a man ruled by emotions.

by qiskit 5y ago

russelldjimmy 5y ago

I am sorry to hear that you have a need to see stories where the helper is also a beneficiary as being romanticised and not “real”. In my opinion, the acts being “self-serving” doesn’t stop them from being kind. Kindness is enlightened self-interest. Everyone wins. How wonderful. Why does the helper have to “lose” for this retelling to be romanticised? - I sincerely hope this does not come off as condescending, and if it does, I am sorry. I hope you are having a good day. Cheers.

qiskit 5y ago
> I am sorry to hear that you have a need to see stories where the helper is also a beneficiary as being romanticised and not “real”. You misunderstood my point. My point isn't about selfish altruism - which I noted was a "nice thing to do". Something I've done personally myself - strollers, luggages and even shopping bags. My point was about the way he wrote the story "...Not a word exchanged, not even a thanks, they just went their separate ways. It was so smooth, almost choreographed, I don't believe the woman even broke stride.". Something an ordinary person did that didn't take much effort or time, that happens every day in nyc, he "hollywoodized". That's my point. > I sincerely hope this does not come off as condescending, and if it does, I am sorry. I hope you are having a good day. Cheers. No worries. I don't get offended or triggered by silly social media comments like many people do. And even if you were condescending, that's your right. No need to apologize for it. My advice is to reread a comment and try to understand it rather than getting emotionally caught up by it. Nothing sadder than a man ruled by emotions.