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BTW I kinda love your quantum planning approach. It's honest and accurate! If you're 50/50 on going to something, be transparent and tell others that. If the
by nlh 5y ago
BTW I kinda love your quantum planning approach. It's honest and accurate! If you're 50/50 on going to something, be transparent and tell others that. If they don't like it, that's on them, not you.
- alar44 5y agoBut that's not how planning works. I want to know how many people to expect. I want to know if you're coming or not so I can plan accordingly. If someone just said 50/50 without any kind of reasoning or explanation, I'd say OK forget about it then.
- Spinnaker_ 5y agoIt's terrible behaviour. Flip it around: "Hey, would you like to come to a dinner party at my house on Saturday. There's a 50/50 chance that I'll turn you away at the door." Don't make your indecisiveness other people's burden.
- nlh 5y agoOk totally fair! This does not work for dinner party planning. I was thinking more as an answer to “hey are you going to this party on Saturday?”
- lostcolony 5y agoHonest, maybe, but not transparent. "I've got a pretty busy day that day and am not sure I can make it" - transparent "I don't know if I'll be up to going to that that day" - transparent. "Hey, maybe; if I find nothing better to do" - transparent. "50/50 chance I'll be there" - all the charm of the last of those, without the transparency.
- schrectacular 5y agoHaha thanks, but I agree with the sibling posts, I just did it to be weird and provocative (and not but for more than a week or two) and people _hated_ it and for good reason, I think.
- darkerside 5y agoJust like the linked post, learn to better predict how you'll feel so you can go from 50/50 to 100% in either direction as soon as you can. Then you can all move on instead of having another spinning plate in your life.