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What you're describing is also known as staying in your comfort zone, which can be devastating. You should be mindful of your feelings and examine their origin

by _rpxe 5y ago

What you're describing is also known as staying in your comfort zone, which can be devastating. You should be mindful of your feelings and examine their origins, yes. But I wouldn't recommend being driven by them.

xwdv 5y ago
There is nothing wrong with a comfort zone, life is too short really to spend long periods of time in brutal discomfort. Some people ruin their lives this way to the point where it will be impossible to ever be comfortable again before they die.
- _rpxe 5y ago
  That's really bad advice for people who are naturally very fragile, have social anxiety or can't deal with confrontation. Unless they start dealing with the feeling of discomfort, they will either suffer their entire life or just reinforce bad habits like avoidance, procrastination, delusion and drug addictions. Lots of people ruin their lives like that.
  - xwdv 5y ago
    Those people are not in a comfort zone, their entire life is discomfort, they just don’t know anything else. They need to move into the comfort zone or their lives will always be ruined.
  - drjasonharrison 5y ago
    I feel that you are possibly jumping to conclusions as to what constitutes a "good life" versus a "ruined life". If people who have "small" comfort zones need support to move outside of them. Throwing categories such as avoidance, procrastination, delusion, and drug addiction into the same group leads me to believe that you might not understand what these supports look like.
DocTomoe 5y ago
That was how I used to believe. What I didn't understand at the time is that there is a difference between "being comfortable" and "being complacent" - and that in order to achieve things or grow yourself, you don't necessarily have to be in a position of discomfort. The self-mortification theory ("push it to the limit, leave your comfort zone") in its extreme, as propagated by growth evangelists (and as it originally came from the field of high-performance sports) is anti-life and wrong. People are not bonsai trees - and bonsai trees are unnatural freaks of nature. We don't have to contort ourselves to live up to an externally imposed ideal. We can - firmly grounded - become greater than these ideals, simply by growing steadily - at our own speed, and with our own, "natural", methods - even within the speeds at which we feel comfortable. So: DO listen to your gut feelings. Examine them. And listen to them.
- drjasonharrison 5y ago
  Often ignored: People who "push themselves" have a huge number of supports from training, equipment, planning, etc. No one does an Tough Mudder without a huge amount of support. No one does a TED talk without a huge amount of support.

by _rpxe 5y ago

xwdv 5y ago

There is nothing wrong with a comfort zone, life is too short really to spend long periods of time in brutal discomfort. Some people ruin their lives this way to the point where it will be impossible to ever be comfortable again before they die.

_rpxe 5y ago
That's really bad advice for people who are naturally very fragile, have social anxiety or can't deal with confrontation. Unless they start dealing with the feeling of discomfort, they will either suffer their entire life or just reinforce bad habits like avoidance, procrastination, delusion and drug addictions. Lots of people ruin their lives like that.
- xwdv 5y ago
  Those people are not in a comfort zone, their entire life is discomfort, they just don’t know anything else. They need to move into the comfort zone or their lives will always be ruined.
- drjasonharrison 5y ago
  I feel that you are possibly jumping to conclusions as to what constitutes a "good life" versus a "ruined life". If people who have "small" comfort zones need support to move outside of them. Throwing categories such as avoidance, procrastination, delusion, and drug addiction into the same group leads me to believe that you might not understand what these supports look like.

DocTomoe 5y ago

That was how I used to believe. What I didn't understand at the time is that there is a difference between "being comfortable" and "being complacent" - and that in order to achieve things or grow yourself, you don't necessarily have to be in a position of discomfort. The self-mortification theory ("push it to the limit, leave your comfort zone") in its extreme, as propagated by growth evangelists (and as it originally came from the field of high-performance sports) is anti-life and wrong. People are not bonsai trees - and bonsai trees are unnatural freaks of nature. We don't have to contort ourselves to live up to an externally imposed ideal. We can - firmly grounded - become greater than these ideals, simply by growing steadily - at our own speed, and with our own, "natural", methods - even within the speeds at which we feel comfortable. So: DO listen to your gut feelings. Examine them. And listen to them.

drjasonharrison 5y ago
Often ignored: People who "push themselves" have a huge number of supports from training, equipment, planning, etc. No one does an Tough Mudder without a huge amount of support. No one does a TED talk without a huge amount of support.