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- Active listening - No judging The active listening you can learn from books (there are good book recommendations here already). No judging is just practice
by rukuu001 5y ago
- Active listening
- No judging
The active listening you can learn from books (there are good book recommendations here already).
No judging is just practice (or if you prefer, practice _suspending judgement_)
- MrYellowP 5y agoJudging is fine. It's input from your brain regarding the patterns of the other person. Judging is important especially because it could be right. You miss out on information if you try to suppress, or ignore it. Not judging isn't really actually natural. What you do with it, THAT's what can create problems. Emotionally immature people who judge and act on that, those are stupid. I don't care if the person next to me is a jew, black, chinese, a fucking nazi, as long as he doesn't bother me or piss off anyone else. Yes, even fucking nazis. There's actually decent (it's a long stretch, but yeah) nazis out there and I tolerate them as "normal people" as long as they don't start talking about it, trying to spread their bullshit. Would it be weird sitting next to one? Yeah! Do I have to respect his rights as long as he doesn't - directly or indirectly - try interfering with mine/others? Yeah!
- krageon 5y ago> There's actually decent [...] nazis This is literally impossible, you cannot be a decent human when you think others are subhuman because they are coloured a different shade from you. If you're willing to ignore that, that's your prerogative. But don't sell that as "well they're decent humans when you get to know them!" because this is fundamentally impossible.