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I can only speak for myself, but it's nice to have physical contact with people. An easy way to battle the touch starvation

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moron4hire 5y ago
Why do you need physical touch from relative strangers?
- kerneloftruth 5y ago
  When you don't want them to remain strangers.
- simonsarris 5y ago
  I'm baffled at how millennia old* rituals involved with no-longer-being-strangers are lost on some commenters https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Funerary_stele_of_Thraseas_and_Euandria_Antikensammlung_Berlin_01.jpg https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Funerary_stele_of_Thrasea... https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:OTArsameiaSockelIIIDexiosis.jpg https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:OTArsameiaSockelIIIDexios...
- dmw1 5y ago
  Seems to me that the ubiquity of such greetings across all cultures would imply that you're the exception here, no?
  - DoreenMichele 5y ago
    A lot of cultures bow rather than shake hands.
    - gehatare 5y ago
      Other cultures require you to get a lot closer than a handshake.
DoreenMichele 5y ago
Strangers don't owe you that and there's still a global pandemic on. Pay for a massage or take up ballroom dancing or something if touch matters to you.
- 7steps2much 5y ago
  Oh they don't owe me anything, and I didn't mean to say that they do. However, I am free to decide who I would rather do business with/work with. And as such I am free to prefer to work with people who shake my hand. As for the pandemic, I don't think it will remain an issue for forever. And even if it does, I don't mind carrying a bottle of hand sanitizer around.
  - DoreenMichele 5y ago
    Yes, you are free to decide with whom you choose to do business. The pandemic has dragged on a lot longer than expected. We still don't have a clear end in sight and some people feel this is "the new normal." I find it creepy and inappropriate that someone would feel that I need to service their touch starvation to do business with them when they can't be bothered to arrange their personal life to adequately meet that need for themselves. It smacks of something just shy of sexual favors since sex is a large part of how most people quench their need for physical touch.
    - 7steps2much 5y ago
      It's a rather far jump to go from handshake to sexual favours in my opinion, but if you feel that way then of course you can just choose to not shake people's hands. Nobody forcing you to after all!
      - DoreenMichele 5y ago
        Nobody's forcing me but if enough people refuse to do business with me because I don't shake their hand, I -- what? -- get to choose between shaking hands and going hungry? No pressure. Just an FYI: I'm a woman. In my experience, a lot of men looking for excuses to touch me, such as shake my hand, are really angling to get next to me sexually. Maybe that's not a big issue in your life. It unfortunately is in mine. Edit: just to be crystal clear, my reason for not shaking hands is germ control, as stated elsewhere.

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moron4hire 5y ago

Why do you need physical touch from relative strangers?

kerneloftruth 5y ago
When you don't want them to remain strangers.
simonsarris 5y ago
I'm baffled at how millennia old* rituals involved with no-longer-being-strangers are lost on some commenters https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Funerary_stele_of_Thraseas_and_Euandria_Antikensammlung_Berlin_01.jpg https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Funerary_stele_of_Thrasea... https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:OTArsameiaSockelIIIDexiosis.jpg https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:OTArsameiaSockelIIIDexios...
dmw1 5y ago
Seems to me that the ubiquity of such greetings across all cultures would imply that you're the exception here, no?
- DoreenMichele 5y ago
  A lot of cultures bow rather than shake hands.
  - gehatare 5y ago
    Other cultures require you to get a lot closer than a handshake.

DoreenMichele 5y ago

Strangers don't owe you that and there's still a global pandemic on. Pay for a massage or take up ballroom dancing or something if touch matters to you.

7steps2much 5y ago
Oh they don't owe me anything, and I didn't mean to say that they do. However, I am free to decide who I would rather do business with/work with. And as such I am free to prefer to work with people who shake my hand. As for the pandemic, I don't think it will remain an issue for forever. And even if it does, I don't mind carrying a bottle of hand sanitizer around.
- DoreenMichele 5y ago
  Yes, you are free to decide with whom you choose to do business. The pandemic has dragged on a lot longer than expected. We still don't have a clear end in sight and some people feel this is "the new normal." I find it creepy and inappropriate that someone would feel that I need to service their touch starvation to do business with them when they can't be bothered to arrange their personal life to adequately meet that need for themselves. It smacks of something just shy of sexual favors since sex is a large part of how most people quench their need for physical touch.
  - 7steps2much 5y ago
    It's a rather far jump to go from handshake to sexual favours in my opinion, but if you feel that way then of course you can just choose to not shake people's hands. Nobody forcing you to after all!
    - DoreenMichele 5y ago
      Nobody's forcing me but if enough people refuse to do business with me because I don't shake their hand, I -- what? -- get to choose between shaking hands and going hungry? No pressure. Just an FYI: I'm a woman. In my experience, a lot of men looking for excuses to touch me, such as shake my hand, are really angling to get next to me sexually. Maybe that's not a big issue in your life. It unfortunately is in mine. Edit: just to be crystal clear, my reason for not shaking hands is germ control, as stated elsewhere.