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Never understood what problem people have with shaking hands.
by raxxorrax 5y ago
Never understood what problem people have with shaking hands.
- kayodelycaon 5y agoNever understood the problem people have with hugs… Everyone has a different level of physical touch they desire and a level that they are comfortable with.
- unfocussed_mike 5y agoI honestly lament that the hugging culture in my wider social circle has probably permanently gone away (if that social circle ever really recovers, considering it was built around small venue music and art). The permanent loss of warmth in my life is very noticeable.
- moron4hire 5y ago
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- rhacker 5y agoThat is a pretty rude comment. What is this person foisting on other people?
- unfocussed_mike 5y agoOK then.
- klyrs 5y agoHugs are great! But, where dudes can be creepy with a handshake, a hug is much more vulnerable. Hugs are for trusted friends.
- klyrs 5y agoAs a woman, handshakes aren't always great. Some guys take the 'firm' thing way too far and try to crush my hand: I'm not impressed, I'm angry that my hand is sore. One time that was a bruise that lasted several days. Other guys are creeps and keep holding on to trap me in conversation; usually to flirt or say something completely inappropriate. I get that people are touch deprived, but it lends legitimacy to the touch depraved. Hug your buds, I'd be happier with the Japanese bow in business settings.
- BurningFrog 5y agoI suspect - with zero evidence - that handshakes are a male way of greeting, and women got included in it, because what else would you do, but it doesn't work well for them.
- esyir 5y agoInterestingly enough, handshakes started as a "I'm not carrying a weapon", and that war/combat is essentially a male field. In reality though, it's very much a male tendency to pursue and display their physical strength; that handshakes also become an avenue for this is unsurprising.
- User23 5y agoThis is consistent with my experience. I can’t recall the last time I saw a woman shake hands where it wasn’t basically obligatory. Men on the other hand do. The difference in behaviors is most noticeable in informal settings where personal preference can dictate behavior.
- klyrs 5y agoIt's also a standard greeting in north American business culture. Failing to fit culture is a "legitimate" reason to be excluded. And yes, lots of men have expressed that handshakes are a men's club. I know guys do the crushing handshake thing as a dominance game. I'd love to be left out of that garbage without being deprived of equal opportunity.
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- s5300 5y ago