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In China there is already a gender imbalance in the favor of men thanks to the one child policy, which means straight young men can struggle to find a romantic

In China there is already a gender imbalance in the favor of men thanks to the one child policy, which means straight young men can struggle to find a romantic partner. When older, richer foreigners come along and snap up local women - who are already in short supply - it definitely breeds resentment. Tangled up with that is the existing problem of human trafficking, where brides are shipped in from Cambodia, Vietnam, Myanmar etc. It's easy for an increasingly nationalistic culture to blame foreigners for exacerbating these issues.

908B64B197 5y ago
> It's easy for an increasingly nationalistic culture to blame foreigners for exacerbating these issues. But they are the ones who created the gender imbalance. It's completely self-imposed.
- DangitBobby 5y ago
  Really? The 30-something Chinese guy who's delivered packages his whole life and has no impact on policy created this scenario?
notch656a 5y ago
I can see how that is the case in China. My wife is from a country where there is no shortage of women. Probably 90% of the people speak passable English, so there is no language barrier. I don't see a lot of hostile resentment to be honest. The presumption is more of a practical and amusing one. Many of the villages are funded in part by remittance from US and this country was saved by US from literal mass rape by Japanese in WWII and unlike other countries we never seriously fucked them afterwards so the people overall are very cheery in dealing with Americans in my experience.
- ciguy 5y ago
  You can just say the Philippines, not sure why you are obscuring the country name.
  - notch656a 5y ago
    Trying not to prejudice the audience, I know that anyone familiar with the country will know what it is. Not really trying to obscure it.
  - sangnoir 5y ago
    The Philipines is has a long and notorious history of mail-order brides[1]. Parent's incredulity on peoples attitudes rings a little hollow when that's explicitly spelled out. 1. The term predates the world-wide web to a time when women in developing counties would be in a literal catalog, and correspondence was done via mail.
    - notch656a 5y ago
      - sangnoir 5y ago
        Don't put words in my mouth: I said your incredulity at people rings hollow - not your experience. It's like a Tesla owner being surprised that people assume they bought a Tesla because it's an EV, when the real reason is because they love the seats and infotainment system. It should not be surpring to discover that a widely-held semtiment (right or wrong) is widely-held.
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        notch656a 5y ago
        I see, the issue is you don't understand what incredulity means. It doesn't mean I'm surprised. I'm perfectly willing to _believe_ that people have rational views on what a situation may be. I understand your wish to be sanctimonious, and perhaps it would have been wise for me to turn the other cheek rather than point out your hypocrisy of putting words in my mouth. Mea Culpa.
    - krageon 5y ago

908B64B197 5y ago

> It's easy for an increasingly nationalistic culture to blame foreigners for exacerbating these issues. But they are the ones who created the gender imbalance. It's completely self-imposed.

DangitBobby 5y ago
Really? The 30-something Chinese guy who's delivered packages his whole life and has no impact on policy created this scenario?

notch656a 5y ago

I can see how that is the case in China. My wife is from a country where there is no shortage of women. Probably 90% of the people speak passable English, so there is no language barrier. I don't see a lot of hostile resentment to be honest. The presumption is more of a practical and amusing one. Many of the villages are funded in part by remittance from US and this country was saved by US from literal mass rape by Japanese in WWII and unlike other countries we never seriously fucked them afterwards so the people overall are very cheery in dealing with Americans in my experience.

ciguy 5y ago
You can just say the Philippines, not sure why you are obscuring the country name.
- notch656a 5y ago
  Trying not to prejudice the audience, I know that anyone familiar with the country will know what it is. Not really trying to obscure it.
- sangnoir 5y ago
  The Philipines is has a long and notorious history of mail-order brides[1]. Parent's incredulity on peoples attitudes rings a little hollow when that's explicitly spelled out. 1. The term predates the world-wide web to a time when women in developing counties would be in a literal catalog, and correspondence was done via mail.
  - notch656a 5y ago
    - sangnoir 5y ago
      Don't put words in my mouth: I said your incredulity at people rings hollow - not your experience. It's like a Tesla owner being surprised that people assume they bought a Tesla because it's an EV, when the real reason is because they love the seats and infotainment system. It should not be surpring to discover that a widely-held semtiment (right or wrong) is widely-held.
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      - notch656a 5y ago
        I see, the issue is you don't understand what incredulity means. It doesn't mean I'm surprised. I'm perfectly willing to _believe_ that people have rational views on what a situation may be. I understand your wish to be sanctimonious, and perhaps it would have been wise for me to turn the other cheek rather than point out your hypocrisy of putting words in my mouth. Mea Culpa.
  - krageon 5y ago