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Who wouldn’t prefer to stay home if they had the choice? I could spend my days traveling, hiking, going to the beach, reading, working on hobbies, learning new
by irrational 5y ago
Who wouldn’t prefer to stay home if they had the choice? I could spend my days traveling, hiking, going to the beach, reading, working on hobbies, learning new skills, cooking, etc.
- tablespoon 5y ago>> Among women with children under 18, 56% would prefer a “homemaker” role if they were “free” to do either: https://news.gallup.com/poll/186050/children-key-factor-wome https://news.gallup.com/poll/186050/children-key-factor-wome.... Contrast with just 26% of men. 39% of women without kids would also prefer to stay home if they had the choice. > Who wouldn’t prefer to stay home if they had the choice? I could spend my days traveling, hiking, going to the beach, reading, working on hobbies, learning new skills, cooking, etc. "Homemaker" does not mean "staying at home, doing whatever you want."
- bluecalm 5y agoHomemaker role doesn't mean spending your days travelling, hiking or going to the beach.
- TedDoesntTalk 5y agoDepends on how many children you have.
- nanomonkey 5y agoMetaverse Homemaker Addition allows you to do what every you want between wash cycles.
- rdtwo 5y agoCan confirm had to do homemaker job on top of paid job I’d prefer to be at my normal job
- corpMaverick 5y agoYes, me too. But, would you still feel the same if you had to stay home to take care of kids and a working spouse ?
- wolverine876 5y agoAnd having very few adults to talk to, no status, no career advancement (in fact, the opposite), and little recognition.
- ericd 5y agoEh? There are plenty of other parents and nannies at the park taking their kids out, if you want to talk to someone.
- barry-cotter 5y agoNannies are of a different social class. Most middle class people are much less likely to have real relationships with people who can’t relate to their problems. Same as rich people tend to have rich friends. “Talking to someone” isn’t community. Colleagues provide an ersatz community for people who don’t have a real one in their life. You need a steady cast of characters and ideally repeated, purposeful interaction.
- rjsw 5y ago> Nannies are of a different social class. I don't think that is true in Europe. They are probably a fair bit younger than middle class mothers which could be a barrier to being friends.
- barry-cotter 5y agoIf the people employing nannies didn’t have more money than their employees the relationship wouldn’t exist at all. The only way I’m familiar with middle class young women nannying is as au pairs, in other countries. But there are people who nanny for decades. They are not the same social class as their employers. My own experience of living in Europe is confined to Germany but middle class German girls mostly don’t even work part time jobs in university, never mind taking a year off before university to work as an au pair, in a foreign country. They do not nanny. Spanish friends made it sound like the same was true in Spain too. Students do not have jobs at university.
- thematrixturtle 5y agoI think you misspelled changing diapers, doing laundry three times a day, spoon-feeding broccoli puree, scraping dried broccoli off the floor, shopping while trying to contain a squealing octopus, etc.
- coryrc 5y agoOr watching and helping form your own child into him/herself, meeting your friends for casual lunches in the park while your kids play, playing goofy games, having time to make nutritious meals instead of heating frozen foods, etc.
- cgriswald 5y agoGrandparent was responding to the ridiculous notion that being a homemaker is like being on vacation with kids. No one is disputing there can be benefits to being a homemaker or having one in the family.
- coryrc 5y agoBeing on vacation with kids is far harder than being at home with kids!
- kQq9oHeAz6wLLS 5y agoInterestingly, you're both right. Turns out you have to take the bad with the good, or more accurately TANSTAAFL
- stickfigure 5y agoIt's... really not that bad? Actually, it's pretty fun. I work from home, wife doesn't, that makes me the defacto stay-at-home dad. It's definitely playing the startup game in "hard mode" but I love not missing a thing.
- zdbrandon 5y agoAlso work from home and 100% disagree. Can hardly get anything done with a 4 month old.
- npip99 5y ago"Who wouldn’t prefer to stay home if they had the choice? I could spend my days traveling" It's not travelling... If you're staying at home...