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“Try to never be the person who cares the most” was an offhand remark my dad made to me when I was stressed over a group project in school. It helped me what in
by brtkdotse 5y ago
“Try to never be the person who cares the most” was an offhand remark my dad made to me when I was stressed over a group project in school. It helped me what in hindsight would’ve been very stressful situation many, many times.
- supperburg 5y agoI don’t understand what problem this solves
- walterbell 5y agoAsk a psych major.
- supperburg 5y agoNo I literally don’t know. Is it a way to be cooler and more accepted? A way to avoid the stress of a project? What?
- lowkey_ 5y agoI really appreciated this advice. It's vague enough that if it relates to your life, you'll probably see how when you hear it. I think I can apply it to both my work life, thinking about times where I overworked myself at a company where nobody else cared enough, and to my personal life, thinking about times where I invested myself fully into relationships where it wasn't certain to be requited.
- walterbell 5y agoDetachment, objectivity, negotiation, game theory. WSJ Oct 2021, "Burned Out? Maybe You Should Care Less About Your Job", https://archive.md/2fsRi https://archive.md/2fsRi
- 0x008 5y agoHave you never been in a situation where you feel you care most about the project goals only to find out everybody else seems to care less? It feels stressful and lonely because you feel like you have to hold all the strings together and if you fail, the whole project will fail.
- atmosx 5y agoI fall for that. Generally is a good advice, clears up your mind. Also, not all fights are worth fighting.
- kohanz 5y agoThis is great advice as an employee (which I try to follow and sometimes succeed), but practically impossible to follow as a founder.
- brtkdotse 5y agoIt’s not for everyone, for sure. The larger implication is “live a good, comfortable life rather than an exceptional one”