For me grief is a sudden pang for something I can't have any more. Being pulled aside in a hallway by my grandfather so he can tell me a dirty joke. The bland t

For me grief is a sudden pang for something I can't have any more. Being pulled aside in a hallway by my grandfather so he can tell me a dirty joke. The bland taste of my grandmother's 'Chicken a la king'. The first time i felt these was often months, even years after their passing. And in moments of vulnerability they can cut quite deep. The crying you do in the moment has very little to do with grief in my opinion. Grief isn't being upset at a sudden change in the status quo of your life, it's the ongoing losses that you deal with as you move on. I can't remember any of my Grandfather's jokes now. I went years without thinking about them once. Now it bothers me whenever I think of him. To quote Gordon Lightfoot, "the feeling is gone and I just can't get it back".